A sidebar about slang and trends

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A sidebar about slang and trends
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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:44pm
Since I was ridiculed for using slang, I started thinking about what parents *keep up on* when it comes to their kids. How many parents are in the know about what slang terms mean, what is *in*, what goes on in the subculture of teens, etc? So I was wanting to conduct a bit of a poll...

If your child asked to go to a *rave*, would you know what it was? Would you know what it involves and what may or may not go on there?

As far as todays drug market, do you know what the terms *Crystal*, *X*, *roofies* or *meth* mean? Do you know which drugs are most popular for teens and how they are obtained/used?

What sexual trends have been taking place in junior high schools?

What does a teardrop tattoo under ones cheek mean?

These are all pretty basic and random, but I was just wondering how much parents today keep themselves informed about the possible scenarios for their children? I personally believe knowledge is power and I prefer to keep myself informed about stuff. And having Btdt on a LOT of teen issues, I try to keep myself informed in advance of what may or may not happen.

My dd has said I am a *hip* mom-not in the way of trying to be her friend, but in the almost frustrating way (for her) of KNOWING what goes on in her world. She cant get much by me, and I intend to keep it that way.


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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 4:34pm
Well, that depends. Do you have any Flock of Seagulls CDs?
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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 6:30pm
Well be careful what you say. I was accused of trying to act like a teenager because I used some general slang terms, lol.

I havent ever gone to a rave, but my brothers have and they still go. I could feasibly still go, but where I live, it IS mostly 20 somethings that attend.

We still go to concerts, dh is a heavy metal/buttrock fan. I prefer alternative/punk and hip hop myself (which means we cannot always agree on concerts, lol. We saw KISS when they were here-they do put on quite a show!) Everclear is coming up here in a couple weeks, dh and I both love their older stuff, so we'll be seeing that show for sure.

The whole basis of the thread was partially about the premise that we are supposed to act a certain way once we are *adults*. Believe me, I agree with you.

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 6:47pm
This is what I was saying. Just because a person is older doesnt mean they cannot still be up to date on the trends of our culture.

Lol, about your definition of *hip*. My youngest brother is like that-calls us "Consumers" when we buy name brand, hates it when some of his obscure favorite groups get popular, etc. Although he does bathe regularly!

I dont see dh and myself ever getting completely out of touch either. We still enjoy the latest music, I usually wear trendier fashions, we are both pretty up on whats going on in the world. And we act like big kids most of the time too...I dont know, maybe I'm not as dignified as the *twinset suburban mom crew* but at least I'm NOT boring, lol!

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 8:45pm
Dh and I saw Everclear (with Spacehog) about seven years ago and it was a blast. I would see them in a minute but I have to be chosey about my show choices because I have a babysitting budget (which I have chosen to ignore lately.) We see a lot of shows all across the board. I am currently trying to figure out how to get my dh to go see Liz Phair with me. I think if he can fly to LA to see Radiohead then it shouldn't be a big deal to go to a $10 show at First Ave. I guess I could always ask my babysitter to go with me and leave dh home with the kids, huh?

You are never too old to enjoy music in all its crazy forms.

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 10:02pm
my dd and her boyfriend came home last week to do that. she really had a great time. i didnt think she would like it, as shes not really into big time noise, but she said it was fun. they told me enough to know it is to worry about, but not enough to make me crazy, and its just as well. LOL.

they had three friends meet up with them, and they all spent the night here. it was really a lot of fun. neat kids.

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 11:57pm
I wasn't trying to insult you, just trying to convey how it really is. It's much worse than a parent's worst nightmare.

And, I'm not making fun, just sort of chuckling. They don't "mosh" at raves - that's more of a punk rock or alternative music type thing. :)

 

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 12:00am
No, my mom spent a lot of time in a panic. But like you said, I was old enough to do what I wanted to do. And I did a lot of lying about my activities at these raves. But I was a smart kid who graduated at the top of her high school class and had an A average in college. I was polite, happy, seemingly well-adjusted, church-going, and so on... what could she do but hope for the best?

Again, I don't mean to insult here... I just want people to understand how bad these things really are. Very scary stuff.

 

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 10:05am
True. Part of the attraction for teenagers for any particular cultural event or trend (say raves or tattoos) is that it is exclusively for and about them. When your 40-something mom is doing the same thing, it loses its cachet. Same with media coverage.
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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 12:57pm
We already know I'm in the know but...


A rave is a large party typically held in warehouses, often where drugs are distributed and loud, rock music is played (that I know of, there is no such thing as a hip-hop rave but I could be wrong).

Crystal=Crystal Meth (Methadone)

X=not sure, but I would think Ecstacy but nobody calls it that anymore (that I know of). Most often it's called "E" or "E pills", I asked a couple of people from different parts of the world and they don't call it X either so perhaps you are talking about something completely different in which case I stand corrected.

Meth=same thing as crystal


Baltimore Junior highs seem to be getting better. When I was in junior high it was the thing to have a baby. In fact, by the time I was a senior in high school it was the thing to dress up your 3, 4 or 5 year old child and take them to the prom. That trend seems to have all but disappeared.

Teardrop tattoo around here either means you've had a murder in your family or that someone in your family is in prison for a long period of time.




Edited 8/6/2003 1:01:01 PM ET by annikkismom

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 2:47pm
Meth is methamphetamine. Also called crank or speed here in the midwest. Methadone is the drug commonly used in treatment programs for weaning heroin users off heroin. But it can be abused as well.

Did the 3, 4, or 5 year olds wear matching outfits with mom? Did the child attend with mom and her date or was the child the date? How funny.

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