A sidebar about slang and trends

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Registered: 03-27-2003
A sidebar about slang and trends
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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:44pm
Since I was ridiculed for using slang, I started thinking about what parents *keep up on* when it comes to their kids. How many parents are in the know about what slang terms mean, what is *in*, what goes on in the subculture of teens, etc? So I was wanting to conduct a bit of a poll...

If your child asked to go to a *rave*, would you know what it was? Would you know what it involves and what may or may not go on there?

As far as todays drug market, do you know what the terms *Crystal*, *X*, *roofies* or *meth* mean? Do you know which drugs are most popular for teens and how they are obtained/used?

What sexual trends have been taking place in junior high schools?

What does a teardrop tattoo under ones cheek mean?

These are all pretty basic and random, but I was just wondering how much parents today keep themselves informed about the possible scenarios for their children? I personally believe knowledge is power and I prefer to keep myself informed about stuff. And having Btdt on a LOT of teen issues, I try to keep myself informed in advance of what may or may not happen.

My dd has said I am a *hip* mom-not in the way of trying to be her friend, but in the almost frustrating way (for her) of KNOWING what goes on in her world. She cant get much by me, and I intend to keep it that way.


dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 11:38am
So you can wear trendy clothes and NOT be trying to act like a teen, but if I use any slang (slang I hear adults my age use all the time) that teens might also use, *I* am tryihng to act like a teenager?

There is a middle ground here you know. Its not like I run around speaking ONLY slang. But I sometimes use a term here or there-as does pretty much everyone I know. Just as you said-there is a difference between dressing like Britney Spears and wearing trendy clothes.

What I dont understand is your initial assumption that my use of a couple of slang terms equated with trying to be something I wasnt, and your mocking response, which insulted quite a few people.

I mean, should I assume that because you like to dress like Katie Couric you are trying to *be* her?

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 1:24pm
You can assume whatever you like....personally I'd love to have Katie Couric's job and life
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 1:27pm
I know it is not addressed to me but I would not want Katy Couric's life. It had to be horrible to watch her husband die from cancer. Just horrible. Her salary-yeah, I would take that in a heartbeat. Just not her life.

KG

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 1:40pm
Well, of course I don't mean that, I mean a life where she has such a fun and interesting job and big salary, but with MY family. I agree, to be honest I had forgotten about her tragedy, that I wouldn't want for anything.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 1:44pm
I would just go for her salary. I could not stand getting up so early in the morning. I am not a morning person and to try to be coherent, intelligent and poised that early in the morning would cause me to have a mental breakdown.

Kristi

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 2:49pm
Sorry I put it in your head, but I can't think of a single Flock of Seagulls song. What part of the 80s were they popular? Can you name some of their "hits?" Maybe it'll jog my memory.

BTW-- just curious... why are you "slimshady?"
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 2:58pm
I would definitely go for her salary. Her life? no. Her job? it would depend on when she gets off work. I could stand getting up before sunrise if I got off before noon.

Do the girls on the "View" also get paid pretty well? I would go for their jobs too.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 11:43pm
My point was simply that you cannot, as you put it, "ensure that if they do, they have their personal acts together and end up in the percentage that doesn't suffer negative life outcomes from the experience." You can do your best, but that won't ensure anything. I was simply trying to point out that to assume that your child, whether adolescent or adult child, will not do drugs or other harmful things because your raised them "right," is naive. You can go ahead and feel confident that your child "could end up at a rave, and be responsible enough to keep themselves safe," but it's probably false confidence in some cases.

I am not "blaming" a rave. Kids know what is there before they go, and they choose to go anyway. It is not just a "party," it is a subculture - and those who attend regularly are almost certainly ending up in dangerous situations.

I am also not saying that you can (or should even try to) "forbid" an adult child to do whatever they choose. I am simply trying to show the truth to someone who seemed to have their eyes closed to what the whole "rave scene" is really like.

But hey, thanks again for another ranting sermon that completely missed the point.

 

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 12:57am
SMP? LOL...the only thing I can think of is very naughty, starts with suck and a guy would say it....LOL!
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 9:19am
I can only think of 2, "Wishing" and "I Ran So Far Away". They remind me of the Thompson Twins (Lies) and all those other early 80's new wave music.

Slimshady from Eminem of course, "Guess who's back, back again, Shady's back, tell a friend, guess who's back, guess who's back, guess who's back...." Because I had to leave the boards and come back as someone new, get it?

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