Snow, Snow, Crappy Snow

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Snow, Snow, Crappy Snow
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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 1:06pm

1. Did you get more snow yesterday or today?

2. What is for lunch?

3. What is your favorite coldcut?

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Registered: 03-22-2013
Thu, 02-13-2014 - 6:49pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I get a nice hand shake and thank you very much for what you are doing, doing a great job.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">I am glad that my bosses have always treated us like family. Every company that I have worked for has been like family. I guess I just have been lucky <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" border="0" /></span></strong></p>

I can't think of a workplace that would be more horrifying than one where people think they can pretend to be my family.

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 02-13-2014 - 6:54pm

Ew.  I would not want my co-workers to presume they have achieved family status.  and I would not appreciate a boss who wanted to kiss me when I got a bonus or for formal things.  Or really for any reason at all.  Kisses have no place in the office.

Oh well, I am glad I have other people in my life, other than family that are like my family, coworkers, friends....

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 6:55pm

I can't think of a workplace that would be more horrifying than one where people think they can pretend to be my family.

That sounds quite sad to me. I am glad I am close to my coworkers like that. I have worked with many of them for so many years. 

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Thu, 02-13-2014 - 6:57pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">That's a Long Island thing...maybe a whole NY thing, don't know.  Everytime you come and go you must kiss everyone else (on the cheek).  Even if you are just meeting the person (if they are close friends or family of your friends/family).  Apparently that carries over to work sometimes, but I can totally see that.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Hmmm...I think it is more of an Italian thing but I have done that in other states, with other people who never came from NY or are Italian lol.</span></span></strong></p>

Yes maybe Italian, although dh has friends and family that are not Italian and they all do the kissing.  I have been many other places, and you generally don't make a habit of kissing everyone hello & goodbye at formal or informal events.  Maybe at a wedding receiving line....

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 02-13-2014 - 7:01pm

Yes maybe Italian, although dh has friends and family that are not Italian and they all do the kissing.  I have been many other places, and you generally don't make a habit of kissing everyone hello & goodbye at formal or informal events.  Maybe at a wedding receiving line....

Oh ok. I guess it is something I am used to. Maybe it is more of a NY thing. I know people who kiss both cheeks and I have gotten familiar with that when greeting them. Even all my friends we great with kisses and many times hugs. 

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 7:04pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Ew.  I would not want my co-workers to presume they have achieved family status.  and I would not appreciate a boss who wanted to kiss me when I got a bonus or for formal things.  Or really for any reason at all.  Kisses have no place in the office.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Oh well, I am glad I have other people in my life, other than family that are like my family, coworkers, friends....</span></strong></p>

Yippee for you.  I have people in my life who are family and friends who, by virtue of their long involvement in many many aspects of my life and not just the limited portion of my life that work entails, are also family.  Coworkers come and go.  I would not WANT to consider my coworkers as family.  Nor would I want to work somewhere that the management crosses all kinds of inappropriate boundaries such as kissing subordinates.

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 7:10pm

Yippee for you.  I have people in my life who are family and friends who, by virtue of their long involvement in many many aspects of my life and not just the limited portion of my life that work entails, are also family.  Coworkers come and go.  I would not WANT to consider my coworkers as family.  Nor would I want to work somewhere that the management crosses all kinds of inappropriate boundaries such as kissing subordinates.

My coworkers and myself do things OUTSIDE of work, not just work things. That is what makes us more family than just coworkers. I treasure that as I have been at my job for almost 19 years and these people have been there for many, many years. Yes, some come and go but it is mostly temps to tell you the truth as our dept has a high amount of people who have been there for a long time. My "main" boss has been with the company for 35 years. His "assistant" 10 years and my manager 16 years. It is nice to be able to get along with all your coworkers in a dept as I know that so many other depts have rifts in them. 

Not sure why on holidays it is inappropriate to kiss a coworker hello and Merry Christmas at a Christmas party. Sounds like you don't work in a very close work environment. That is fine if you like that but I am so much happier working with people that I have known for almost 2 decades and consider them more family than coworkers and bosses. 

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 7:11pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Are you kidding me? That's a lawsuit waiting to happen. </span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px">So sorry you don't have very friendly family-like co-workers. No one kisses hello and goodbye at formal things for work either (example of Christmas party)?</span></p>

To my knowledge, the only time my boss has ever kissed any of us on the cheek was when we were leaving his son's funeral.  That, IMO, is a little different, since it's a personal gathering rather than a work event.  The HR person in me cringes at the thought of it happening at a work event.  


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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 7:14pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Yippee for you.  I have people in my life who are family and friends who, by virtue of their long involvement in many many aspects of my life and not just the limited portion of my life that work entails, are also family.  Coworkers come and go.  I would not WANT to consider my coworkers as family.  Nor would I want to work somewhere that the management crosses all kinds of inappropriate boundaries such as kissing subordinates.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">My coworkers and myself do things OUTSIDE of work, not just work things. That is what makes us more family than just coworkers. I treasure that as I have been at my job for almost 19 years and these people have been there for many, many years. Yes, some come and go but it is mostly temps to tell you the truth as our dept has a high amount of people who have been there for a long time. My "main" boss has been with the company for 35 years. His "assistant" 10 years and my manager 16 years. It is nice to be able to get along with all your coworkers in a dept as I know that so many other depts have rifts in them. </span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Not sure why on holidays it is inappropriate to kiss a coworker hello and Merry Christmas at a Christmas party. Sounds like you don't work in a very close work environment. That is fine if you like that but I am so much happier working with people that I have known for almost 2 decades and consider them more family than coworkers and bosses. </span></strong></p>

It's inappropriate because it could be interpreted as inappropriate by the kissee.  In a case like yours, when people have known each other for a long time, I can see how you could be personally comfortable with it, but the possibility exists that not everyone would be and in that event, it would leave the company wide open for a lawsuit.  


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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 02-13-2014 - 7:15pm

To add to that, my dh knows many of my coworkers and he actually went to a concert with one of them last month. Didn't bother me ONE.BIT. They had a great time. We are all friends. I have done many things with many different coworkers in my 19 years just at that job. 

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