Snow, Snow, Crappy Snow

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Snow, Snow, Crappy Snow
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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 1:06pm

1. Did you get more snow yesterday or today?

2. What is for lunch?

3. What is your favorite coldcut?

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 02-13-2014 - 7:16pm

To my knowledge, the only time my boss has ever kissed any of us on the cheek was when we were leaving his son's funeral.  That, IMO, is a little different, since it's a personal gathering rather than a work event.  The HR person in me cringes at the thought of it happening at a work event.  

What type of work event? Like a party? EVERYONE kisses each other hello at our Christmas party. Never thought that was weird. 

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 02-13-2014 - 7:19pm

It's inappropriate because it could be interpreted as inappropriate by the kissee.  In a case like yours, when people have known each other for a long time, I can see how you could be personally comfortable with it, but the possibility exists that not everyone would be and in that event, it would leave the company wide open for a lawsuit.  

Well unfortunately the thanking with the bonuses ended a long time ago when direct deposit started lol. We just get a check now in our checking account lol. There is still kisses hello at the Christmas party between everyone. Never thought that was weird and "lawsuit" material. The kisses ARE inbetween the lawyers and others and HR and others lolol.

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 8:05pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">To my knowledge, the only time my boss has ever kissed any of us on the cheek was when we were leaving his son's funeral.  That, IMO, is a little different, since it's a personal gathering rather than a work event.  The HR person in me cringes at the thought of it happening at a work event.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">What type of work event? Like a party? EVERYONE kisses each other hello at our Christmas party. Never thought that was weird. </span></strong></p>
. It's regional/cultural.  It would be considered very weird here.

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 8:07pm
    blackandwhitemolly wrote:
    <p><span style="font-size:13px">To my knowledge, the only time my boss has ever kissed any of us on the cheek was when we were leaving his son's funeral.  That, IMO, is a little different, since it's a personal gathering rather than a work event.  The HR person in me cringes at the thought of it happening at a work event.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">What type of work event? Like a party? EVERYONE kisses each other hello at our Christmas party. Never thought that was weird. </span></strong></p>
    . It's regional/cultural.  It would be considered very weird here.
    Gotcha. So no "warm" greetings with friends and coworkers, ever?

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    Registered: 10-23-2001
    Thu, 02-13-2014 - 8:53pm
    The idea that it's regional cracks me up, Lol. Are people in Alaska as cold as the weather is there?

     


     


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    Registered: 03-22-2013
    Thu, 02-13-2014 - 8:56pm

    blackandwhitemolly wrote:
    <p><span style="font-size:13px">Yippee for you.  I have people in my life who are family and friends who, by virtue of their long involvement in many many aspects of my life and not just the limited portion of my life that work entails, are also family.  Coworkers come and go.  I would not WANT to consider my coworkers as family.  Nor would I want to work somewhere that the management crosses all kinds of inappropriate boundaries such as kissing subordinates.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">My coworkers and myself do things OUTSIDE of work, not just work things. That is what makes us more family than just coworkers. I treasure that as I have been at my job for almost 19 years and these people have been there for many, many years. Yes, some come and go but it is mostly temps to tell you the truth as our dept has a high amount of people who have been there for a long time. My "main" boss has been with the company for 35 years. His "assistant" 10 years and my manager 16 years. It is nice to be able to get along with all your coworkers in a dept as I know that so many other depts have rifts in them. </span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Not sure why on holidays it is inappropriate to kiss a coworker hello and Merry Christmas at a Christmas party. Sounds like you don't work in a very close work environment. That is fine if you like that but I am so much happier working with people that I have known for almost 2 decades and consider them more family than coworkers and bosses. </span></strong></p>

    I get along very well with my coworkers.  We work (emphasis here on WORK) well together.  I don't socialize with my coworkers because I have friends and family for that.  And I have absolutely no interest in the social kiss--especially in the workplace.  The workplace isn't an appropriate venue for social kissing, imo.  Occasionally, a coworker will--over a period of many years--achieve friendship status.  I have a few of those.  We still don't hug and kiss in the workplace and we don't make social plans with each other at work.  That's what cell phones and texting are for.

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    Registered: 03-22-2013
    Thu, 02-13-2014 - 9:00pm

    blackandwhitemolly wrote:
    <div style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><ul></ul></div></div><div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><div><div><blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>blackandwhitemolly</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px"&gt;To my knowledge, the only time my boss has ever kissed any of us on the cheek was when we were leaving his son's funeral.  That, IMO, is a little different, since it's a personal gathering rather than a work event.  The HR person in me cringes at the thought of it happening at a work event.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px"&gt;What type of work event? Like a party? EVERYONE kisses each other hello at our Christmas party. Never thought that was weird. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><div>. It's regional/cultural.  It would be considered very weird here.</div><div></div><div>Gotcha. So no "warm" greetings with friends and coworkers, ever?</div></div></div></div></div>

    Warm greetings, ime, don't include kissing.  However, I have no objection to others indulging in social kisses if that's what they absolutely have to do.  But my friends and I don't kiss each other in greeting.  Occasionally, we might hug if it's been a really long time since we saw each other.  But if we're working together daily and then go to a Christmas party?  No, I'm not going to hug and kiss people I probably just saw 4 hours ago.  And that's for the people I consider friends.

    People who are just coworkers?  No, I'm not hugging and kissing them.

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    Thu, 02-13-2014 - 9:08pm

    blackandwhitemolly wrote:
    <div style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><ul></ul></div></div><div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><div><div><blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>blackandwhitemolly</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px"&gt;To my knowledge, the only time my boss has ever kissed any of us on the cheek was when we were leaving his son's funeral.  That, IMO, is a little different, since it's a personal gathering rather than a work event.  The HR person in me cringes at the thought of it happening at a work event.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px"&gt;What type of work event? Like a party? EVERYONE kisses each other hello at our Christmas party. Never thought that was weird. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><div>. It's regional/cultural.  It would be considered very weird here.</div><div></div><div>Gotcha. So no "warm" greetings with friends and coworkers, ever?</div></div></div></div></div>

    If by warm you mean genuinely glad to see each other, then yes, there are many warm greetings.  If you mean kissing/hugging, no.

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    Registered: 01-08-2009
    Thu, 02-13-2014 - 9:22pm

    jamblessedthree wrote:
    The idea that it's regional cracks me up, Lol. Are people in Alaska as cold as the weather is there?

    Greeting with a kiss has nothing to do with being warm or cold.  Didn't Judas greet Jesus with a kiss?  You know how well tht worked out.

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    Registered: 08-22-2009
    Thu, 02-13-2014 - 9:35pm

    I have had a co-worker hug me when I told her DD1 diagnosis and a few days later when she could tell I was having a bad day because of it.

    My boss hugged me when I went through the reception line at his sons wedding.

    Both special events/occasions.

    As part of normal greeting of co-workers either at work or in other social events, no.

    I have been hugged by DH co-workers and their spouses and co-workers at  social events.

    While I have hugged I do not think I have ever kissed anyone aside from family (and those I was romantically involved with prior to marriage)

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