Snow, Snow, Crappy Snow

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Snow, Snow, Crappy Snow
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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 1:06pm

1. Did you get more snow yesterday or today?

2. What is for lunch?

3. What is your favorite coldcut?

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:00pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Yes maybe Italian, although dh has friends and family that are not Italian and they all do the kissing.  I have been many other places, and you generally don't make a habit of kissing everyone hello &amp; goodbye at formal or informal events.  Maybe at a wedding receiving line....</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Oh ok. I guess it is something I am used to. Maybe it is more of a NY thing. I know people who kiss both cheeks and I have gotten familiar with that when greeting them. Even all my friends we great with kisses and many times hugs. </span></strong></p>

I greet friends with hugs. And sometimes cheek kisses. But my boss?  Nope.  I really truly like him. He's a great guy and we've socialized outside of work. But a kiss would be AWKWARD.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:01pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p>To add to that, my dh knows many of my coworkers and he actually went to a concert with one of them last month. Didn't bother me ONE.BIT. They had a great time. We are all friends. I have done many things with many different coworkers in my 19 years just at that job. </p>

I've been to two concerts with my boss.  And drank tequila shots with him.  And his wife.  Still no kissing.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:01pm

I'm very friendly with my coworkers.  And with my boss (shoot, he and I shared beers at James Taylor and Mumford & Sons concerts).  But kisses cross the line.  My HR manager (whom I'm friendly with) would be in a panic at the thought.

You DO realize this is a kiss on the cheek, right? Lol

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:03pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<div style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><ul></ul></div></div><div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><div><div><blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>blackandwhitemolly</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px"&gt;To my knowledge, the only time my boss has ever kissed any of us on the cheek was when we were leaving his son's funeral.  That, IMO, is a little different, since it's a personal gathering rather than a work event.  The HR person in me cringes at the thought of it happening at a work event.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px"&gt;What type of work event? Like a party? EVERYONE kisses each other hello at our Christmas party. Never thought that was weird. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><div>. It's regional/cultural.  It would be considered very weird here.</div><div></div><div>Gotcha. So no "warm" greetings with friends and coworkers, ever?</div></div></div></div></div>

A lean-in almost hug, a hearty handshake, etc is WARM.  A kiss is borderline sexual.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:04pm

I enjoy my job. And I'm friendly with my coworkers (we have a cocktail evening planned next week) and with my boss. But I don't want my work to become my family. I want some separation between work and home life.

Do you only talk about work? You have no other outside interests?

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:07pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span>I'm very friendly with my coworkers.  And with my boss (shoot, he and I shared beers at James Taylor and Mumford &amp; Sons concerts).  But kisses cross the line.  My HR manager (whom I'm friendly with) would be in a panic at the thought.</span></p><p><span>You DO realize this is a kiss on the cheek, right? Lol</span></p>

Yes, I realize that. And I've known people to call in the sexual harassment lawyers at a hand on a shoulder.  A kiss on the cheek could easily be construed as sexual harassment.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:07pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span>People who are just coworkers?  No, I'm not hugging and kissing them.</span></p><p><span>Seems like very cold relations. I work with all these people 2 hours before the party and still everyone gives kisses hello. Never thought that was out of the ordinary. </span></p>

It doesn't seem like it's out of the ordinary for you and your area.  It would be odd here.  Do you not understand cultural differences?

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:07pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span>I enjoy my job. And I'm friendly with my coworkers (we have a cocktail evening planned next week) and with my boss. But I don't want my work to become my family. I want some separation between work and home life.</span></p><p><span>Do you only talk about work? You have no other outside interests?</span></p>

No, we don't only talk about work. Yes we discuss interests outside of work. But we don't kiss.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:08pm

I greet friends with hugs. And sometimes cheek kisses. But my boss?  Nope.  I really truly like him. He's a great guy and we've socialized outside of work. But a kiss would be AWKWARD.

You DO realize I am speaking of ONCE a year at a formal event, right? Lol. I saw my manager at a restaurant bar one night when I was out with friends. We kissed hi and I invited her and her dh whom I know well to join all of us but they were off to a movie. I have no problem including her. I have had parties at my house and coworkers have come. Never thought not to invite them.

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Thu, 02-13-2014 - 10:09pm

A lean-in almost hug, a hearty handshake, etc is WARM.  A kiss is borderline sexual.

OMG, you do realize it is a peck on the cheek, right? Lololol. 

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