So for ft wohps, how do you juggle??

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So for ft wohps, how do you juggle??
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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 8:31pm
Just curious, this has been a topic of heavy discussion in our home as of late. I am about halfway through school and the *plan* was that I would go to work ft once I get my b.a. BUT....the logistics do not seem to be working when dh and I discuss it. We have been trying to figure out how we are going to do this, and I am just not sure if its going to work for our family to have 2 ft wohps.

I know a lot of people would immediately think *daycare*. But there is the factor that my dd will be about 15 by then, and while I dont want her home alone for 2-3 hrs a day, she is also too old for a *sitter* or daycare. But my ds will only be 7!

Right now, we just hope that I will be able to find a flexible job. Dh has a job that is very flexible too, so we hope that we'll somehow be able to work around the kids schedules.

But I am curious as to what other dual wohps do! Flex schedules? nannies? Dc? How does it work for YOUR family and, if your kids are small, will you be able to continue with the schedule when they are older and dont want to go to dc? What about things like summer vacation, spring break, Xmas???? How does it work for you??

dj

Dj

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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 10:06pm
Do you have a friend who's AH who lives nearby who could basically hang out at your house from after school until one of you got home to the kids? Not really a sitter or a nanny, someone you trust (whom of course you would pay), who could also drive the kids if need be?

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 7:28am
Me working part time for the most part and having flexible schedules it how we have managed. When I got my job I asked my boss what time I had to be there in the morning, his answer "8ish". I drop my DDs off at school on the way to work. Yesterday as I was walking out the door realizing that I would not make it to work until about 8:40 I made a comment to DH that I don't know what I would do if I were ever in a job again where I actually had to clock in and out at a set time. I have been too spoiled these last 5 years.

When I first went to work I work for the school system so except for one day a year I was off when the kids were off. At my first job I worked from 10:00 to 2:00 so no childcare issue at all. At my next job I worked fuill time but from 6:30 to 3:00. DH got the kids off to school and I was there when they got home.

Then I moved to the job I am in now. During the school year I have always worked around DD3 school schedule. Which meant leaving work at 2:30 when she was in elementary school, about 3:15 when she was in middle school. Now she is in high school and does not get home until 5:00 so I can work as late as 4:45 and still be here when she gets home which I usually am but occasionally I work until 6:00 so she may may have about an hour home alone (unless DH happens to get off earlier that day).

I never wanted my kids to be home alone all day every day in the summer so I cut back my hours. The first year I worked in the summer my DDS were 16, 14 and 10. I worked from 8:00 to 12:00. Since they stay up later and sleep in longer in the summer that meant only having about 2 awake hours alone every day.

I did work a few more hours last summer but I accomplish that by going in earlier. I generally work from about 6:30-1:00.

I do have some qualms about this summer. In the past I always had at least two kids home to help keep and eye on each other but both DD1 and DD2 will be working so that means that DD3 will be home alone a lot of the time. (She'll turn 15 this year). I will probably work the same schedule I did last year.

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 7:42am
My ds is a toddler now and goes to daycare. Once he is in schoolfulltime, he will got to an afterschool program or my parents home. My folks live 1 mile away from us 8 months a year. When they are away, he will goto afterschool.

As far as school breaks, I know our local community center has fulltinme programs for the kids during breaks plus as I said my folks are around most of the time.

When he is your Dd's age, I figure he will be busy with extra curricular activities (clubs, sports, etc). I worked part-time after school when I turned 16 and I was also into a couple of clubs. I had very little free time before my mom arrived home from work.
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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 10:29am

I took a paycut and became employed in a flexible position. I work for the husband of my Sunday School teacher. I work anywhere from 30 to 40 hours per week. It is wonderful. I get a sick day and an annual day each month. I can take a day off if I already have my 30 hours for that week. They were great when Devin was sick. I never had to worry about getting fired or not getting paid.


It took alot of patience and trust to take this job. It was scary to take the paycut but it has been worth it in the end.


For snow days and holidays, I usually have a friend watch Zak. Devin had a daycare in his office that we used when he was alive. This summer Zak is going to the after school program every day. He isn't happy but he will deal. He really wants me to quit my job (as does my sister) but I need the motivitation to get out of bed and the security it represents.


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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 10:41am
I have a nanny..its a godsend. With an infant and a toddler, I can't even imagine how early I would have to get up if they were in daycare!

 

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 11:11am
Dh and i have always had very flexible schedules while working for large corporations. the holidays and summertime can be very tricky though. when your dd is fifteen, just send her to my sister's house. thats what i did last year, and it worked out well for us....LOL. jk!, when our kids were fifteen, they were usually working at a small job, or another awesome thing for 15yo(they usually cant work a real job til 16) is a camp counselor. we know lots of kids who did that. our son worked at a pizza place run by a family, and dd was a life guard. they didnt work 40 hrs a week, but enough to keep them busy. this year, we are getting our son ready to life guard as well. the "y" is right around the corner and a very safe and healthy environment. i do have to say though, we always sent our kids up north with family for a few weeks during the summer, in addition to taking vacation and having our parents down to be with the kids while we worked. usually for school holidays, dh and i would alternate days off to be with the kids. as i said before, the whole symantics of it is very tricky.
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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 11:39am

In our family it doesn't make sense to have two full time wohp either.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 1:00pm
Okay, here goes. And just remember, YOU ASKED! LOL!

When they were little they were in DC 4 days a week and with my parents 1 day a week.

Now that they're older DH and I have been able to arrange our schedules so one of us is with them each morning to take them to school, and one of us or my parents picks them up and takes them home every day. You have to remember that DH is self-employed so he was able to schedule his weekly routine around me and the boys when he first opened his practice. My employer is good to me in that I work some long days and some short days to be able to pick the boys up from school twice a week.

While my parents are in FL in the winter, two days a week the boys go to my good friend's house/DS2's best friend's house, after school for a couple hours until I pick them up. In the summer they are with my good friend or my parents 2-3 times a week, DH has Friday's off, and I WAH one day a week.

Ya got all that? There's going to be a test later on.....

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 1:25pm
Oy, my head is spinning! Now I'm *really* not sure about this woh ft stuff...lol

Dj

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 1:41pm
Well, one thing that has been helpful in our situtation is that I've been with the company almost 23 years, the last 15 in *this job.* Nobody else does what I do in the business unit, so my management wants to make sure I'm "happy." So they've been very good to me and have allowed me to have such a crazy schedule. I can honestly say that not many employers would do for an employee what mine has done for me. So in that respect I am VERY lucky.

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