So the juggling has really begun here

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So the juggling has really begun here
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 5:39pm
And as it gets more and more crazy for us, I always think to myself "HOW would we do this if both dh and I worked ft???"

One thinks initially that when the younger one is in school things will be easier-my thought has always been to go back to woh ft once ds is in school (and I am done with my schooling). But I was thinking about it last night, thinking about our schedules.

Right now, dd has piano once a week at 5p. At the end of the month, she'll start track and field, which means practice till 430 every day, meets on the weekends. Then at the end of April she wants to play softball-I have no idea of the schedule yet, but I'm guessing practices at least 2x a week plus one game a week.

Ds is in swimming lessons 2 nights a week. Goes to preschool 4 days a week (2.5 hrs). In April he will start T ball-again I have no idea of the schedule but I'm guessing it will be another couple evenings a week at least!

I know many parents have said that as kids get older, it actually gets harder rather than easier-and I am really starting to find this out!! I honestly dont know that I will EVER woh ft again-I just dont see how it will work for us.

So woh ft parents, how do you juggle the sports schedules and such? I know I've asked about child care in other threads , but when you throw baseball practice into the mix, how does that work for you? We are even pretty strict about NOT allowing our kids to do too many activities, but even with each of them just doing one or two, it seems like its going to be VERY hectic. Do you ever have to tell your kid they cannot do a certain activity because it doesnt work well as far as work schedules and such? Do you limit activities? Does the sitter or dc provider take the kids to activities???



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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:02pm
Dj, i feel for you. Right now, we are in a 1-week hiatus between both basketball seasons (andrew and jenna) and the start of out-of-town bb and soccer. I'm really looking forward to this week -- quiet evenings, no running around.

the first thing i've done is always had a BIG calendar that's on the kitchen wall by the phone. EVERY practice/game goes on there so i can see right away if/where there are overlaps. I also put up their religious school schedules, doctor appointments and anything else that we need to be reminded of.

Most activities don't start here until about 5:30 pm. some nights i've had the nanny stay an extra half hour (and let her go 1/2 hour earlier later in the week), some nights i've asked the home-health aide if she can change her hours slightly, other times i've asked either set of grandparents and/or dh to be available to help. we're lucky in that we're "deep" in extra sets of hands (i.e. drivers) AND that ds is old enough to be dropped off by himself at his basketball game (we're about 1/2 hour behind him after our dd's game is finished -- we coached).

i would lay it all out on the calendar, see if there are overlaps -- and what times they are. can you and dh tag-team (each take one child), do you have any other adults around to help?


each is limited to ONE sport plus religious education (2 days per week for andrew, 1 day per week for jenna).


no, we use her or the home-health aide to stay with alyssa. i hope this helps.


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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:24pm

Our family tends to limit the kids to one activity at a time, unless it's a school based program such as band.

Right now my three kids are all involved in gymnastics one night per week.

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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:04pm

I have to agree that it has gotten harder as the kids have gotten older and more involved in activities.

We try and limit the kids to 1 sometimes 2 activities at a time, not including religious and directly afterschool activities.


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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 5:34am

Although I am a WAH, I still limit my dd to two activities a week.

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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 8:50am

It is really hard to juggle and Alex isn't even in sports yet. I have a huge master calendar with the on going dog appts, my appts, Zak's soccer schedule and trash day (I always forget!). I also have thrown myself on the mercy of the soccer coach so I can work out while he pratices.

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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 9:06am
I'm with you. Even with limiting the activities, it can get hairy with multiple kids. Luckily, mine are close in age so some things can be done at the same time. My dh also helps a lot. I step up the meal planning, so I can have things ready when we get home.