Starting off Sunday fluff

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Starting off Sunday fluff
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Sun, 09-29-2013 - 10:46am

We've gone to church, watching Meet The Press, took ground beef out of my freezer for meatballs, jotting notes down for the week then planning for the week ahead, clip coupons, and planning to watch the Cleveland Browns/Bengals game later, Ultimate rivals!  Lol! 

How is your Sunday going? 

 

 

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:19pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Morty, the more you talk, the more limited and judgemental you sound. Read an etiquette book already. I already said it is not necessary to show up empty-handed. Flowers, wine, hostess gifts are fine. Unless it is a potluck or you are a co-host, you do not bring food in any circle of friends I have had since grad school.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Sounds like you don't host many dinner parties and the ones you do are with cheap people. lol</span></strong></p>

I have to agree.  When I was a student at a professor's house, again many of us could barely rub 2 coins together.  It's very different entertaining students who are really just children until they graduate, IMO!

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:21pm

thardy2001 wrote:
Your experience is very parochial.  Students who want a hot meal.  I get that.  I was invited to professors homes with other students back in college and my grad school days and it was always the same ~ no one would think to bring wine or other hostess gift, we'd all end up sitting on the floor, stairs, discussing something or other.  We were there because you can't really turm down a bona fide professor and because it was a change from the cafeteria or hot pot back in the apartment.  You can't compare a group of students over for a bite to a real get together.  Very little of the academic life is similar to the real world, lol.</p>

How rude! (*insert sarcasm icon here*)

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:22pm

thardy2001 wrote:
Your experience is very parochial.  Students who want a hot meal.  I get that.  I was invited to professors homes with other students back in college and my grad school days and it was always the same ~ no one would think to bring wine or other hostess gift, we'd all end up sitting on the floor, stairs, discussing something or other.  We were there because you can't really turm down a bona fide professor and because it was a change from the cafeteria or hot pot back in the apartment.  You can't compare a group of students over for a bite to a real get together.  Very little of the academic life is similar to the real world, lol.</p>

So the academic world is "fake"?

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:22pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswife</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Not when they've either been request to NOT bring anything or are aware that Bord does not expect contributions. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Again, it is rude and if you are have been properly raised, you don't show up empty-handed.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I agree when everyone's friends or family or on the same playing field.  The gatherings Bord discusses here are only students, and they're not on the same playing field, not going to be her social peers. </p>

Where did you get that information? Bord certainly didn't make that statement.  Are you making things up again?

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:24pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p> </p><p><em>No, if you want to know how things are done in circles different from your own, an etiquette book might help you. If you don't have that kind of curiousity and are content to just be nasty and judgemental about customs other than your own, an etiquette book will be of no use.</em></p><p>Then your company knows you get your ideas from etiquette books too, Bord?  Or do you take all the credit? </p><p>You like debating this as much as I do, Lol.  :-)</p>

As you well know, students are not reading etiquette books, lol!  If a teacher asks you to come to her house for a meal, you go!  Students do read the Thardy2001 Book on How to Not Get A Failing Grade. Wink

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:27pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>I grew up in a pretty modest neighborhood, our neighbors ranged from the ceo of a local company to a painter and plumber.  Dad of course was a school teacher.  I still remember the many a dinner parties they hosted for the neighbors, Oh and parish priests too.  No stuffy inner circles. </p>

Don't you miss that?  I miss watching them get dressed up just to go over to the Smiths house.  I think we should bring back the top hat and spats, no?

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:30pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>Your experience is very parochial.  Students who want a hot meal.  I get that.  I was invited to professors homes with other students back in college and my grad school days and it was always the same ~<strong><em> no one would think to bring wine or other hostess gift, we'd all end up sitting on the floor, stairs, discussing something or other</em></strong>.  We were there because you can't really turm down a bona fide professor and because it was a change from the cafeteria or hot pot back in the apartment.  You can't compare a group of students over for a bite to a real get together.  Very little of the academic life is similar to the real world, lol.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>How rude! (*insert sarcasm icon here*)</p>

Yep, I'm sure you remember those days. Bring over little soaps for the "hostess"?  Um, I don't think so.

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:31pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>Your experience is very parochial.  Students who want a hot meal.  I get that.  I was invited to professors homes with other students back in college and my grad school days and it was always the same ~ no one would think to bring wine or other hostess gift, we'd all end up sitting on the floor, stairs, discussing something or other.  We were there because you can't really turm down a bona fide professor and because it was a change from the cafeteria or hot pot back in the apartment.  You can't compare a group of students over for a bite to a real get together.  <strong><em>Very little of the academic life is similar to the real world, lol</em></strong>.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>So the academic world is "fake"?</p>

No, I don't think so. 

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:39pm

Right, And prim and proper wasn't learned in an etiquette book. 

 


 


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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:45pm

As you well know, students are not reading etiquette books, lol! If a teacher asks you to come to her house for a meal, you go! Students do read the Thardy2001 Book on How to Not Get A Failing Grade.

Haha, You may be on to something.  I'd seriously love to be Professor F's company anytime, He is full of stories and great wisdom. 

 


 


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