Starting off Sunday fluff

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Starting off Sunday fluff
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Sun, 09-29-2013 - 10:46am

We've gone to church, watching Meet The Press, took ground beef out of my freezer for meatballs, jotting notes down for the week then planning for the week ahead, clip coupons, and planning to watch the Cleveland Browns/Bengals game later, Ultimate rivals!  Lol! 

How is your Sunday going? 

 


 


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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:54pm

thardy2001 wrote:
Yep, I'm sure you remember those days. Bring over little soaps for the "hostess"?  Um, I don't think so.</p>

Actually, when I was in college, and we'd hang at a prof's house, we'd bring food.  We used to have "Eggrolls at Steve's" - each person would bring an egg roll ingredient (cabbage, onion, chicken, soy sauce, etc), and we'd spend the evening making and eating fresh egg rolls.  The prof's name, btw, was NOT Steve. And no one could ever remember why it was called "Eggrolls at Steve's".

 

 

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 1:04pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;mortyswife&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;Not when they've either been request to NOT bring anything or are aware that Bord does not expect contributions. &amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;Again, it is rude and if you are have been properly raised, you don't show up empty-handed.&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I agree when everyone's friends or family or on the same playing field. <strong><em> The gatherings Bord discusses here are only students, and they're not on the same playing field, not going to be her social peers.</em></strong> &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Where did you get that information? Bord certainly didn't make that statement.  Are you making things up again?</p>

Yes, she is making things up again, sigh.   We do traditionally hold a "back to school barbecue" at our home for the new grad students to meet the current grad students, and we also invite students who can't make it back home for Thanksgiving to our home for the Thanksgiving meal, but neither of those gatherings is exclusively grad students, nor do we typically have grad students over on other times.  We have the usual circle of friends met at different places, church, neighborhood, work, parents of kids our kids went to school with, etc.   And, I did say that "hostess gifts" (including bottles of wine) are acceptable and common, but that people are not expected to contribute to the meal when they are invited to the house.  None of that will make any difference, it looks like some people are determined to substitute fantasy.   Have at it, people.

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 1:08pm

I don't really "categorize" my friends.

Who said they do? Do you only have ONE circle of friends?

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 1:09pm

I agree when everyone's friends or family or on the same playing field.  The gatherings Bord discusses here are only students, and they're not on the same playing field, not going to be her social peers

True, I can see students not having money to be making a side dish or bringing over a bottle of wine or liquor.

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 1:14pm

I agree. We just went over someone's house for a big party, and there were at least 10 bottles of wine with pretty ribbons on them. Smile  It's common courtesy.

I have a dinner party next weekend. We were all asked to make something and bring whatever you drink. Why do you ask? Is the host cheap? NO, not at all. The reason is so we can try others specialities (I was already told, yes told lol to make my sweet potato casserole) and if you drink something that she might not have, then to bring it. Most people don't have a fully stocked bar (even though I do know people who do) and they want to make sure you are enjoying yourself just like you would if you were going out or at home drinking. This friend is a chef and a DARN (since I was told I can't use the D word, really?) good one AND.... she ALWAYS asks for different sides even though she makes a TON of food. I would rather go to something like this than a stuffy dinner where the hosts INSIST you don't bring anything so they can try and impress you with their cooking.

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 1:15pm

Nobody is making anything up bord, Grad students are a part of your circle of friends - you said it.  You also look up hostess ideas in an etiquette book, Cool for you.  Others don't. 

 


 


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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 1:17pm

So no answer Bord if YOU are cheap or if your DH is cheap? I am pretty sure you have said through the years that your dh is very cheap. Wasn't there a story once how he takes the kids to Subway and makes them share a soda not to pay the extra amount for 2 soda's? 

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 1:18pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That's just simply not true of 1) all cultures 2) everyone in the American culture even.  I'll agree that it is often expected, but not always.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, I said IME and yes, I know people of ALL cultures. </span></strong></p>

Actually you don't. You know people of all cultures who live in and have been raised in Long Island, which is a different culture than the rest of the US.  You have continually noted that you do not understand that other people/geographical areas have different customs and that different is not wrong.  

But yes when I'm going to a party in Long Island everyone must bring something.  And many times it is dessert, even if the host is going to provide a dessert (why they do have a dessert, I don't know, since everyone else is going to bring one--but sometimes a host might in the case of a birthday party for instance).  And then there are 6 full desserts (a whole cake, a whole plate or box of cookies, a whole pie etc) for 12 people and most of them get partially (and many times minimally) consumed. Better-no, it's a nice thought, but a lot of wasted food. And poor planning.

Other places I've lived in, do not do it this way.  They very well may bring something for the host, but it's not the same way as it is by you.

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 09-30-2013 - 1:18pm

We've been to all kinds of parties, some pot luck, others where the hostess just wanted our company.  We always brought something, I can't remember what - bottles of wine, side salad, dessert, box of chocolates. 

 


 


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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 1:23pm

Stereotypes R Us, Lol. 

 


 


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