Starting off Sunday fluff

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Starting off Sunday fluff
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Sun, 09-29-2013 - 10:46am

We've gone to church, watching Meet The Press, took ground beef out of my freezer for meatballs, jotting notes down for the week then planning for the week ahead, clip coupons, and planning to watch the Cleveland Browns/Bengals game later, Ultimate rivals!  Lol! 

How is your Sunday going? 

 


 


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Registered: 01-08-2009
Tue, 10-01-2013 - 9:46pm
I mentioned it twice, Thardy, in the context of the discussion on etiquette. In this case, even though the etiquette books say something is okay, it would not be OK if you knew the gesture would be offensive.
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Registered: 09-01-2002
Tue, 10-01-2013 - 9:55pm

Sounds pretty ghoulish to me.  But I also don't enjoy reminding the bereaved of their loss at random times that will make *me* feel better.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Tue, 10-01-2013 - 9:58pm
Well, first of all, Thardy, it is not offering up prayers, which. ANYONE can do, but offering a mass, which a monk cannot do unless he happens also to be a priest. And I told you at the beginning that I looked it all up years ago, before I ever bought my first Mass card. Since that was over twenty years ago, I decided to look it up again in case something had changed. It appears your attitude is idiosyncratic to you rather than indicative of a general attitude, which is where etiquette books come in handy. You never know when you just ask someone random whether they are giving you a consensus wander or their own odd take on the issue.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Tue, 10-01-2013 - 10:00pm
Oh, Thardy, you will go to any lengths to try to make me look wrong or bad, and it hardly ever works. It's certainly not working this time. I wonder whether it's more tiring to be almost always right, or almost always wrong?
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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 10-02-2013 - 2:58am

so you would send a mass card in lieu of flowers b/c funeral etiquette tells you to? 

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 10-02-2013 - 3:13am

There are all sorts of rememberances, The notion that a mass card is "better" than something else is tacky, I agree thardy. 

ETA besides, a mass intention in honor of the deceased is a kind catholic thing.  I don't think it's very nice to rip apart catholicism then paint yourself some wonderfully sympathetic person b/c you are having a mass said for somebody you know that died.  Is your name listed in the church bulletin as the giver of said mass?   

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 10-02-2013 - 3:19am

I didn't think you were living by the belief that you must always be right, You know that crazy narcissism talk and all that. 

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 10-02-2013 - 3:26am

I agree with you, kettle bells come in different weights too.  Do you use them independently or do you use them in a class at the gym? 

 


 


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Registered: 01-08-2009
Wed, 10-02-2013 - 6:52am
"so you would send a mass card in lieu of flowers b/c funeral etiquette tells you to?" In any given situation, I would do what the family requested or what I thought would bring most comfort to the family. I would consider a Mass card, flowers, or a charitable donation in honor of the deceased, for instance. Why would you do?
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Wed, 10-02-2013 - 6:57am
I don't "rip apart Catholicism," Jamblessed. I am Christian myself and have a great deal of respect for the historic faith. I don't think any denomination is perfect, and frankly, I couldn't care less if you think me doing something nice is tacky. Everybody's a critic, lol. I've never seen my name in the church bulletin. It's my understanding that in most cases, a private notice is sent to the family.

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