Starting off Sunday fluff

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Starting off Sunday fluff
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Sun, 09-29-2013 - 10:46am

We've gone to church, watching Meet The Press, took ground beef out of my freezer for meatballs, jotting notes down for the week then planning for the week ahead, clip coupons, and planning to watch the Cleveland Browns/Bengals game later, Ultimate rivals!  Lol! 

How is your Sunday going? 

 

 

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 11:58am
I don't really "categorize" my friends.
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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:00pm

I grew up in a pretty modest neighborhood, our neighbors ranged from the ceo of a local company to a painter and plumber.  Dad of course was a school teacher.  I still remember the many a dinner parties they hosted for the neighbors, Oh and parish priests too.  No stuffy inner circles. 

 

 

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:01pm
What do you mean by getting ideas from etiquette books and broadcasting them? That is an odd question.
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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:04pm

Are all formal dinner parties stuffy, iyo Jams?

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:04pm

I don't "categorize" my friends nor do I find friendships that difficult either. 

 

 

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:08pm

bordwithyou wrote:
"Sounds like you are speaking of a small dinner party." I am speaking of whenever I invite people to share a meal with us, whether it is one person or one hundred. "Well shame on those people that don't bring anything. " No, there is no shame in people having different customs from those in your circle. It is statements such as this that make you sound rather....parochial.

Your experience is very parochial.  Students who want a hot meal.  I get that.  I was invited to professors homes with other students back in college and my grad school days and it was always the same ~ no one would think to bring wine or other hostess gift, we'd all end up sitting on the floor, stairs, discussing something or other.  We were there because you can't really turm down a bona fide professor and because it was a change from the cafeteria or hot pot back in the apartment.  You can't compare a group of students over for a bite to a real get together.  Very little of the academic life is similar to the real world, lol.

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:11pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Not when they've either been request to NOT bring anything or are aware that Bord does not expect contributions. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, it is rude and if you are have been properly raised, you don't show up empty-handed.</span></strong></p>

I agree when everyone's friends or family or on the same playing field.  The gatherings Bord discusses here are only students, and they're not on the same playing field, not going to be her social peers.

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:13pm

Oh, that's different then if she's talking grad students. 

 


 


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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:15pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That's just simply not true of 1) all cultures 2) everyone in the American culture even.  I'll agree that it is often expected, but not always.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, I said IME and yes, I know people of ALL cultures. </span></strong></p>

As you know, the university world is not just another culture, it's a different planet! Wink  Really, it was not a place for me to have a career.  {{shudder}}

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Mon, 09-30-2013 - 12:17pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">It is not rude to do as the host has requested. In fact, it's rude to ignore the host's wishes. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, I was raised to have manners. You bring something for the host. If they don't use it that night, then that is their choice but they are taking their time, their energy, their money out for YOU. </span></strong></p>

I agree. We just went over someone's house for a big party, and there were at least 10 bottles of wine with pretty ribbons on them. Smile  It's common courtesy.

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