Tacky Wedding Invitations

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Tacky Wedding Invitations
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Fri, 06-11-2004 - 12:52pm
We have received the following invitations these past few weeks - is it just me, or has etiquette just flow out the window?

Invitation 1 - at the bottom of the actual invitation, not on the enclosed reception card (which might have been more appropriate), it says "Please don't forget to include the gift receipt!" Although I always include the receipt, to actually have this written reminder on the invitation IMO is just TACKY.

Invitation 2 - (this is to a co-worker's wedding, I guess her mother is a recovering alcoholic) at the bottom of the invitation (again, not on the enclosed reception card), it says "Alcohol will be provided, but please be discreet." Perhaps I'm not being sensitive enough, but again, this just seems tacky. If it's that big of a deal, don't have alcohol. But pointing it out is bringing mom's alcoholism to everyone's attention because people have been asking "what's this 'be discreet' bit?"

Invitation 3 - is to a potluck costume wedding. It doesn't say what type of dish to bring or what the costume "theme" is.

So let's get this straight, this couple expects their guests to provide their own food, pay for a costume (unless we have one on hand) AND bring a gift. FTR - this couple is not hurting for money. I'm sorry, but I think this is cheap. If you are trying to cut costs, provide cake and punch. Ask people to bring their favorite dish in lieu of bringing a gift. Don't ask your guests to fork out extra money for YOUR celebration.

Would you feel the same way or am I overreacting? Anyone else have tacky invitations to share?

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 1:02pm

SO TACKY!!!


The pot luck one is hilarious. LOL

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 1:04pm

I don't have any tacky invitations. This year, though, I was deluged by invitations...2 graduations, 2 weddings, and too many baby showers to count. You make friends and looks what happens!


I think all of your examples are tacky too. I mean, don't allow alcohol. Give a guest a clue about what costume to wear. Remember that scene in Bridget Jones where she goes as a Playboy bunny to a party thinking it was a costume party and everyone else is wearing suits and dresses?


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 1:09pm
This reminds me of the wediing I went to 2 weeks ago.
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Registered: 09-15-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 1:09pm
Invitation 1- OMG!! That is the TACKIEST thing I have ever heard! I can't believe it really happened. Really. With all the wedding advice books out there, how did the bride screw that one up? I hope that you brought a gift that was NOT on the registry, that was NOT something they needed (like a crystal toilet-paper holder or something) and WITHOUT a receipt. Actually, I hope that you re-gifted a gift. Geez! (okay, enough rant)

Invitation 2- What does *discreet* mean? Bring a flask? I don't get it.

Invitation 3- Not the worst thing on earth, but people hate costumes...

Our tacky story right now is this: My bil married a 67 year-old woman (he's 41) last year. The age difference is bad, but not as bad as the fact that they had a full Catholic mass, 5 bridesmaids/groomsmen, she in a white bridal gown w/veil, the works.

Anyway, this was a year ago and NO ONE has received thank yous. All we got was an email saying, "Sorry we haven't gotten the thank yous out but we've been working on this, that and the other thing." How's THAT for tacky?

What is wrong with people?

Meldi

Meldi
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 1:20pm
I haven't attended wedding #1 yet, but thank you for the wonderful idea. I just might use it! Crystal toilet paper holder - LMAO!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 1:32pm

OMG, it's not only the potluck costume invitation that's tacky - it's the wedding itself!

 

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 1:57pm

Oh My!

 


 


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 2:03pm
Invitation #1: Very tacky to ask for gift receipt.

Invitation #2: Why would you even mention alcohol on the invitation.

Invitation #3: Potluck Costume party - a little weird but not tacky. I've been to at least one wedding reception that was potluck. It was alot of fun. I never thought the B&G owed me a dinner. They didn't have alot of money and on the back if the invite they asked for donations to two charities in lieu of gifts. I didn't consider it tacky - the whole invitation reflected their personalities. I've also been to a few weddings that only had Cake and punch in the church hall after the ceremony. Again, I never expected dinner.


Janet

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 2:36pm
Yup--all are tacky! The tackiest wedding invitation we ever got had a reception card that stated beer, wine and setups provided--in other words, bring your own hard liquor. So people did, they came to the reception w/coolers. ICK!

My SIL's shower invitation had the gift receipt thing on it. I was appalled! It was tacky for a shower, but it is even tackier for a wedding as the only wedding gift "required" of guests is their presence at the event.

Potluck? Yeah--that's AWFUL!

Thought about boycotting them all?

C

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 5:18pm
Yes, I have definitely thought about boycotting them all. But realistically, it'll probably only be wedding #3. We're not particularly close to these people. Wedding #1 (family) and #2 (co-worker) are a little more difficult to not attend, unfortunately.

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