Talking to your kids about the CT school tragedy.

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Talking to your kids about the CT school tragedy.
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Fri, 12-14-2012 - 2:44pm

I just can't absorb all the details surrounding this awful tragedy.  I don't understand how anyone could harm little schoolkids in such a manner.  I'm not sure yet how to approach the topic with my own kids, but here is a link to an article with some suggestions: 

http://www.ivillage.com/connecticut-school-shooting-how-talk-kids-about-tragedy/1-h-474780

Do you plan on discussing this with your kids, and if so, how do you plan on approaching it?  

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Registered: 08-13-2012

My child is a teen so I have definitely talked to her about today's events and also the recent mall shooting and the movie theater shootings. It is absolutely horrifying that I am more concerned that my young teenage daughter will be gunned down at the mall than I am that she will smoke or try alcohol or drugs. At least parents have some control over the drugs and smoking.

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Registered: 04-18-2012

I will talk to my boys about it.  When the shootings happened at the Batman movie over the summer, I sat them down and had an honest conversation with them about it.  They are online daily and I really didn't want them to read about it online before we discussed it and they had a chance to ask questions.  I'm sure that we'll do the same today.  The difference is, I think this one will cause more worry.  School is a safe place for them, a home away from home, and I have a feeling we'll have a lot of questions and concerns from them. I'll just be available to them whenever they need me.  Heartbreaking. :(

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Fri, 12-14-2012 - 3:37pm

My 9 year old will be home in about an hour and my 13 year old about 1/2 hour after that so I was just sitting her thinking and preparing about what I was going to say. My 9 year old is a HUGE worrier to begin with so I know that I'm going to do a lot of reassuring for him. Telling him that although this is a terribly sad situation, it IS rare and that he is safe.

I just gotta finish convincing myself of that fact first! Logically, I know it's true but emotionally as a parent, it's hard not be scared Frown

Lisa

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My kids are in high school, where they all have laptops, so DS found out about it during a study hall and was skyping with his dad at work.  He's a sensitive kid and is very shaken and ticked off that someone could do something so evil. My daughter threw her backpack in my van and decided to jog home, so I'm not sure she knows yet.

This is so different from elementary school, where teachers didn't say a word and left it up to parents to tell their children when a tragedy had occurred. I felt like I had more control over how the news was broken and could frame it in the context of our faith. Even though my kids are teens, they're still fragile and emotional people, and I really hate it when something shakes their world like this.

My son was venting all the way home from school. He asked me why, if the guy knew he was going to die anyway, he didn't just shoot himself first and spare everyone else. I have no answers for this.

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Mon, 12-17-2012 - 12:07pm
I don't know how you would answer that question either. I've been worried about one of my boys, who can be more anxious and sensitive about topics like this. So far he seems fine but I'll be keeping an eye on him. He gets upset whenever you mention the whole 2012 topic, so wonder if he's focused more on that. I'm glad that he has an appointment with his therapist tomorrow.

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Registered: 12-17-2012

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That story is horrific and I still cry when I think of it and see the coverage on television.. There was a clip on one of the stations yesterday and the news people were discussing whether children themselves should have talked about the eyewitness accounts of what they saw and all. My older DD and I were appalled by that too, The insensitivity of the some of the media is just terrible!!

 

 

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Wed, 12-19-2012 - 11:42am

Of course, we have discussed it with Dylan.  After all, he is in the room while we are discussing it and it's all over the Yahoo home page.  However our discussions have been more on how the various media are covering the event than on the actual event itself. 

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett