Tattoos and Piercings

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Tattoos and Piercings
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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 3:56pm

My oldest is 14, and as scared he is of just regular needles don't think this is something I'll be dealing with for awhile.  I was curious if any of your kids have asked for or gotten a tattoo or body piercing.    I've thought of getting a tattoo before, but haven't found any design that I want to permantly put on my body, although my dh got a tattoo a few years ago.  I joke that his was from a mid-life crisis :smileywink: 

What was your reaction and did they need your permission to get it done in your state?  Even with their parent's permission, what age do you think is appropriate for either?   

 

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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 12:04pm
I don't think there's any magic to 13, but for us, it was kind of a fun way to celebrate them turning into teens. My girls are heavily into jewelry-making, so both have extensive collections of earrings, and dd1 got a second hole this summer. I got mine done initially at 18, but had them re-pierced when dd1 got hers done a couple of years ago.
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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 4:32pm
My daughter was in the fifth grade when she got her ears pierced, and just this summer got a second hole in her ears. It seems to be all the rage for high school girls to get their noses pierced, but I told my daughter not to even ask, it is not going to happen under my watch.
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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 8:06pm
It looks very painful to me! Luckily, my HS kid is extremely pain-sensitive, so I can't imagine she'd ever want to. I haven't seen much of this at her school, thankfully, but I have seen a few of those gouged out ear piercings, which look just as bad.
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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 4:10pm

it's illegal to tattoo anyone under 18 in CA and piercings must be done with the wrtien consent and the presence of parent.    http://www.ncsl.org/issues-research/health/tattooing-and-body-piercing.aspx

I will sign and pay for the first set of ear piercings (at age 11 or when I think that they are mature enough to care for the piercings without my nagging) and will sign but not pay for the 2nd or 3rd set of ear piercings.  Beyond that, they must wait until they are 18 and don't need my permission for any body modifications.

Chris

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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 4:13pm

Dreadlocks, head shaving, hair dying, etc. is temporary.  But I won't pay for it.

Chris

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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 4:19pm

Our original rule about ear piercing was that they had to wait until they were 13.  At age 11, Joy gave a convincing argument (I don't remember what her argument was but it did not include any wording to the effect that "every one else had them".  That argument would result in an automatic no) as to why she should be allowed to have it done then and not wait 2 more years.  So we set the age bar at 11 for Erica and Angela.  Erica had it done for her 11th birthday.  I think Angela was 14 when she got around to getting hers done.

Chris

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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 5:49pm
I didn't say, The husband and I paid for our daughter's first ear piercing, but not the second. That one was on her, but we did sign for it.
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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 5:51pm
Daughter dyes her hair. I don't mind streaks or tips in unnatural colors, though she does pay for the products herself. I draw the line at a whole head of unnatural color. Daughter has shaved her head, but swears she's never doing it again.
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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 6:03pm

  DD3 died her hair from about 14 (always paid for herself).   She is now 23 and I do not think she is doing it anymore. 

 The rules we set down was it had to follow school dress code (which meant no "unnatural" colors) and she could not bleach it (because we did not want her using harsh chemicals). Since she has dark auburn hair that pretty much limited her to black or red. 

  I thought that when she went off to college and not longer had a dress code to contend with she would go for blue or pink but it never happened. 

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Thu, 08-09-2012 - 7:45am

  DD1 started dying her hair in her mid 20's.  She is a natural blond.  It darkened as she aged but not uniformly, it was always ligher on top where the sun hit it and darker underneath, so it kind of looked like a bad dye job.  Now she dyes it a light brown.  I tease her that most people what to go blond, she is a blond but chooses to go brown. 

  I am too lazy to dye mine.  I am just letting it go gray.