Tattoos and Piercings

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Tattoos and Piercings
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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 3:56pm

My oldest is 14, and as scared he is of just regular needles don't think this is something I'll be dealing with for awhile.  I was curious if any of your kids have asked for or gotten a tattoo or body piercing.    I've thought of getting a tattoo before, but haven't found any design that I want to permantly put on my body, although my dh got a tattoo a few years ago.  I joke that his was from a mid-life crisis :smileywink: 

What was your reaction and did they need your permission to get it done in your state?  Even with their parent's permission, what age do you think is appropriate for either?   

 

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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 4:10pm

it's illegal to tattoo anyone under 18 in CA and piercings must be done with the wrtien consent and the presence of parent.    http://www.ncsl.org/issues-research/health/tattooing-and-body-piercing.aspx

I will sign and pay for the first set of ear piercings (at age 11 or when I think that they are mature enough to care for the piercings without my nagging) and will sign but not pay for the 2nd or 3rd set of ear piercings.  Beyond that, they must wait until they are 18 and don't need my permission for any body modifications.

Chris

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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 8:06pm
It looks very painful to me! Luckily, my HS kid is extremely pain-sensitive, so I can't imagine she'd ever want to. I haven't seen much of this at her school, thankfully, but I have seen a few of those gouged out ear piercings, which look just as bad.
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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 4:32pm
My daughter was in the fifth grade when she got her ears pierced, and just this summer got a second hole in her ears. It seems to be all the rage for high school girls to get their noses pierced, but I told my daughter not to even ask, it is not going to happen under my watch.
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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 12:04pm
I don't think there's any magic to 13, but for us, it was kind of a fun way to celebrate them turning into teens. My girls are heavily into jewelry-making, so both have extensive collections of earrings, and dd1 got a second hole this summer. I got mine done initially at 18, but had them re-pierced when dd1 got hers done a couple of years ago.
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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 8:01am

  I had forgotten how painful it was. 

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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 7:18am

 When DD2 was 6 she asked me when they could get their ears pierced.  It seemed to come out of no where and was such a surprise that I said 10.  No real reason behind that age except that I assumed by then they would be able to handle the cleaning and care of it.

 I pretty much forgot it.  Then 2 years later a few weeks before DD1 turned 10 DD2 said, now, she will be able to get her ears pierced.  DD1 and DD2 both got thier ears pierced for their 10th birthdays.   DD3 had no interest then and I think got it done for either her 11th or 12th. 

  I got mine done at 14th.  When I was in the Air Force I could not wear earrings while at work.  I got so tired of putting them in and out that I just stopped wearing them and my ears closed out.  When my mother passed since we were born in the same month I got all of her birthstone jewelry which included earrings. So I got them re-pierced at 41. 

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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 4:01am
I allowed dd to get her ears pierced when she was 16. I wanted her to be old enough to go by herself and deal with it by herself (since I can't deal with things like that and had a horrible experience with ear piercing). She has never shown any interest in any other piercings or in tattoos, and I am glad of that, since I do not like either, including pierced ears.
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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 9:32pm
I'm fine with ear piercing and pretty much anything temporary. My kids both went through the feather stage (those feathers that attach to your hair), and I don't think I would have an issue with hair coloring (but neither of my kids is interested). But no tattoos or body piercings (other than ears) until they're 18 and do it on their own. One thing that I think has helped with my kids is that I didn't let them get their ears pierced until they were 13. Most kids around here seem to get them very young, so that by the time they hit the teen years, they're looking for something else.
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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 8:10pm
I don't mind either, but my kids have to wait until they are not on my dime and don't need my permission. Gauges are gross though.
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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 8:09pm
Both my girls have had colored streaks. E had pink last summer, but it washed out after one trip to the pool. G had red and it stayed in most of the summer. This summer, she has gotten her own dye and the red is back. But it's always temporary. Their schools don't allow "unnatural" hair colors.