Tattoos and Piercings

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Tattoos and Piercings
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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 3:56pm

My oldest is 14, and as scared he is of just regular needles don't think this is something I'll be dealing with for awhile.  I was curious if any of your kids have asked for or gotten a tattoo or body piercing.    I've thought of getting a tattoo before, but haven't found any design that I want to permantly put on my body, although my dh got a tattoo a few years ago.  I joke that his was from a mid-life crisis :smileywink: 

What was your reaction and did they need your permission to get it done in your state?  Even with their parent's permission, what age do you think is appropriate for either?   

 

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 7:08pm

We allowed my daughter to get her nose pierced for her 14th birthday just a few weeks ago.

I'm totally OK with blue hair or or wild makeup, but she's never wanted any of that. She talked about getting her nose pierced a full year before we allowed her to do it. I made her write a research paper about the proper care and all of the possible complications, and I sat down with her to make her look at photos of scars and read stories of regret (there were surprisingly few). After that, I made her wait a full six months and made her save up the money to do it. At one point, I made her ask openly on Facebook for opinions. All of her grandparents and great-grandparents, aunts, distant cousins, and even a few friends weighed in and gave her a really difficult time about it. She was afraid I'd change my mind based on that and I explained to her that I wasn't interested in parenting by committee, but I wanted her to understand what everyone else thought. I made her wear a marker dot for a week on each side of her nose before she had it done so that she could get used to the idea and choose the proper side. She was mortified, but remained committed.

All she is interested in wearing is a dainty little stud. No barbells, no hoops. She's not interested in any other piercings or tattoos (which is good, because she fully understands that this nose piercing was my personal limit.) Neither my husband or I have tattoos or piercings, nor are we interested in them.

 

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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 11:37am
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Sun, 08-12-2012 - 2:01pm
My rule for when the kids were growing up is that as long as they didn't to anything per any to their bodies as in tattoos or piercings, I would compromise on hair or other non-permanent stuff. My older one came home from college last year with pierced ears. I cried a little inside.
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Thu, 08-09-2012 - 11:47am
I always said that I wouldn't let my kids do anything "weird" to their hair. It didn't take long to realize that unnatural hair color isn't weird, it's mainstream now. :smileyhappy:

Like I said before, She can't color her whole head, but my daughter does strands or tips from time to time. I actually think she is happy with that, and wouldn't go for the whole head anyway, it's too much to maintain, and she is kind of a low maintenance girl. My son had a mohawk once, when he was little. Got that out of his system and now he wants nothing to do with it.

I figure if I give a little, maybe they won't go completely crazy when all up to them.
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Thu, 08-09-2012 - 7:45am

  DD1 started dying her hair in her mid 20's.  She is a natural blond.  It darkened as she aged but not uniformly, it was always ligher on top where the sun hit it and darker underneath, so it kind of looked like a bad dye job.  Now she dyes it a light brown.  I tease her that most people what to go blond, she is a blond but chooses to go brown. 

  I am too lazy to dye mine.  I am just letting it go gray.

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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 6:03pm

  DD3 died her hair from about 14 (always paid for herself).   She is now 23 and I do not think she is doing it anymore. 

 The rules we set down was it had to follow school dress code (which meant no "unnatural" colors) and she could not bleach it (because we did not want her using harsh chemicals). Since she has dark auburn hair that pretty much limited her to black or red. 

  I thought that when she went off to college and not longer had a dress code to contend with she would go for blue or pink but it never happened. 

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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 5:51pm
Daughter dyes her hair. I don't mind streaks or tips in unnatural colors, though she does pay for the products herself. I draw the line at a whole head of unnatural color. Daughter has shaved her head, but swears she's never doing it again.
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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 5:49pm
I didn't say, The husband and I paid for our daughter's first ear piercing, but not the second. That one was on her, but we did sign for it.
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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 4:19pm

Our original rule about ear piercing was that they had to wait until they were 13.  At age 11, Joy gave a convincing argument (I don't remember what her argument was but it did not include any wording to the effect that "every one else had them".  That argument would result in an automatic no) as to why she should be allowed to have it done then and not wait 2 more years.  So we set the age bar at 11 for Erica and Angela.  Erica had it done for her 11th birthday.  I think Angela was 14 when she got around to getting hers done.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 4:13pm

Dreadlocks, head shaving, hair dying, etc. is temporary.  But I won't pay for it.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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