Teaching tolerance to our kids

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Teaching tolerance to our kids
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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:06pm

The discussion in the other thread about gay marriage (OK, it wasn’t so much a discussion as an attack on granitestategal, plus the last time I checked it had devolved into mumbling and maniacal laughter...time to move on!) got me to thinking about this new generation of kids and how things have changed for them. Technology has exploded, and kids are more connected than ever before. They’re also disconnected in a whole new way, but this thread isn’t about that. I’d like to know what we are teaching our kids as far as tolerance for other religions, races and lifestyles.

My parents were brought up by parents who were extremely prejudiced against non-Catholics and non-whites. My great-grandparents must not have passed along the lessons they’d learned as immigrants themselves. The town we lived in was predominantly white and Catholic, and up until high school I didn’t know anyone who was black, Jewish, Hispanic, or gay*. When I moved away from home, I was blown away by how different people outside my little world really were, and fascinated by it. I was, and am, determined to raise my kids to respect and appreciate the differences of others and to understand that deep down we really aren’t that different.

A few years ago when DS was 4, we ran into the husband of a co-worker at a music festival. My co-worker is also male. I probably went overboard in my introduction, but I wanted to get the point across that it’s perfectly OK for some families to consist of 2 dads or 2 moms, or one parent, or parents of different races/religions.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:12pm

I don't know what we do, specifically, but we must be doing soemthing right.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:13pm

How old is your child?

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Registered: 06-16-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:20pm

That's awesome! :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:20pm

Right or wrong, I guess only time will tell....

We don't teach *tolerance*.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:21pm
Smart kid. :)
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Registered: 03-25-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:25pm
Not only tolerance, but acceptance of the differences, is something we teach the kids. I saw a sign the other day: Friends are like snowflakes, everyone is different and each one is special.

I believe that my children easily and willing accept all kinds of differences in people, they are quite used to families with adopted children of all races and parents of the same sex.

I remember when my youngest was in preschool, he had two best friends, one from China and one from Taiwan....if only the UN could have seen how well they played together.


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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:27pm

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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:29pm

I grew up in a "anything goes" sort of atmosphere, and my parents had friends from all over the world who would visit the house. This was before people started immigrating to Denmark, so it was VERY exotic to have people from India, for example, visiting a blah, Danish suburb.

At the same time, my father was and remains a tremendous homophobe, his twin is too, and we generally chalk it up to some kind of funkiness in that department. I think because even as a child I could comprehend that the paternal homophobia was just plain old stoooopid and offensive, it always bugged me.

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Registered: 03-25-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:31pm
<< All humans are to be treated with dignity and respect. To me, that's not an issue of tolerance, but basic humanity.>>

Yes, I agree and something we also teach our children.
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Registered: 03-25-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:31pm
I saw it on the door of a store that I went into while shopping, I really liked it.

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