Teaching tolerance to our kids

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Teaching tolerance to our kids
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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:06pm

The discussion in the other thread about gay marriage (OK, it wasn’t so much a discussion as an attack on granitestategal, plus the last time I checked it had devolved into mumbling and maniacal laughter...time to move on!) got me to thinking about this new generation of kids and how things have changed for them. Technology has exploded, and kids are more connected than ever before. They’re also disconnected in a whole new way, but this thread isn’t about that. I’d like to know what we are teaching our kids as far as tolerance for other religions, races and lifestyles.

My parents were brought up by parents who were extremely prejudiced against non-Catholics and non-whites. My great-grandparents must not have passed along the lessons they’d learned as immigrants themselves. The town we lived in was predominantly white and Catholic, and up until high school I didn’t know anyone who was black, Jewish, Hispanic, or gay*. When I moved away from home, I was blown away by how different people outside my little world really were, and fascinated by it. I was, and am, determined to raise my kids to respect and appreciate the differences of others and to understand that deep down we really aren’t that different.

A few years ago when DS was 4, we ran into the husband of a co-worker at a music festival. My co-worker is also male. I probably went overboard in my introduction, but I wanted to get the point across that it’s perfectly OK for some families to consist of 2 dads or 2 moms, or one parent, or parents of different races/religions.

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Registered: 12-01-2009
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:06pm

she's in sixth grade-- and she's a hot ticket- there's no bully gonna be bugging her.

besides NH has a very severe zero tolerance bullying law now -- my friends daughter ended up bringing the family of tormentors to court.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:08pm

Glad you are so confident.

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Registered: 12-01-2009
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:09pm

damn right i'm confident.... and you know what - they don't change wth the kids my daughter is tight with -- heck most of them were AT our wedding.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:11pm

Bawwahhaa....nope, my dd has not been bullied but I have witnessed it on facebook alone. It starts in middle school and I am sure your dd is not going to go with all the same kids to school forever. Not EVERYONE is in the theater and lives the same way. Shrug.

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:13pm
Nah is does not bother me one bit... why would it, i find it comical.

My experiences have been fantastic...what ppl say and do does not bother me one bit. I dont have neghbors and the area iam talking about is not the town i live in.

I have no idea what your talking about i never said my dh was high profile i said I was high profile ...b/c of our last name and the rest. we opened. ppl were very interested in me.
I love love my house and property I would only move if dh sold this place and opened up another somehwere else.

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Registered: 12-01-2009
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:13pm

the best thing about my dd though is that she carries a confidence with her that is quite amazing... and it will serve her well in the years to come -- she thinks those kind of catty girls are stupid and she just ignores or avoids them - both in real life and other places -- and her best friends are always going to be her theater friends--

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:14pm
"Not EVERYONE is in the theater and lives the same way. Shrug."

And it sounds like GSG is teaching her DD to not only be tolerant, but accepting of those people, no matter how they live.
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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:14pm

So WHERE are these people that are "whispering". HOW do they KNOW how you are raising your children if they are not neighbors or even in your area?

You did say that your dh worked at some high class restaurants, correct? Meaning that he could get a job any place.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:15pm

Uh huh....whatever gets your through the night...

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:16pm

There is nothing wrong with that. The point is that OTHER kids are not like that and no matter how much you THINK you can avoid it, it will always be there. Shrug.

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