Teaching tolerance to our kids

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Teaching tolerance to our kids
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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:06pm

The discussion in the other thread about gay marriage (OK, it wasn’t so much a discussion as an attack on granitestategal, plus the last time I checked it had devolved into mumbling and maniacal laughter...time to move on!) got me to thinking about this new generation of kids and how things have changed for them. Technology has exploded, and kids are more connected than ever before. They’re also disconnected in a whole new way, but this thread isn’t about that. I’d like to know what we are teaching our kids as far as tolerance for other religions, races and lifestyles.

My parents were brought up by parents who were extremely prejudiced against non-Catholics and non-whites. My great-grandparents must not have passed along the lessons they’d learned as immigrants themselves. The town we lived in was predominantly white and Catholic, and up until high school I didn’t know anyone who was black, Jewish, Hispanic, or gay*. When I moved away from home, I was blown away by how different people outside my little world really were, and fascinated by it. I was, and am, determined to raise my kids to respect and appreciate the differences of others and to understand that deep down we really aren’t that different.

A few years ago when DS was 4, we ran into the husband of a co-worker at a music festival. My co-worker is also male. I probably went overboard in my introduction, but I wanted to get the point across that it’s perfectly OK for some families to consist of 2 dads or 2 moms, or one parent, or parents of different races/religions.

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Registered: 12-01-2009
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:18pm

yup -- she's an incredibely kind girl - she sticks up for kids getting picked on - she's concious of others feelings and she's soo funny.

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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:19pm

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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:19pm

Tell you waht honey - don't you worry about

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:21pm

No, i dont think i ever said "my dh has worked in high class places"

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:24pm

Middle school kids (when it starts) are cruel EVERYWHERE. Again, you haven't gotten there yet. Shrug.

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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:25pm

:smileyvery-happy:

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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:26pm
One of the reasons we live in the city, and chose a socioeconomically and culturally diverse elementary school for our kids, is so that they can experience greater diversity than what DH and I experienced as kids. It's pretty normal to them.
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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:26pm

So your dh has not worked in "nicer" restaurants all around? I could find the exact wording if you would like but it would be easier for you just to explain.

So how do these people KNOW how you raise your children then if they are not in your everyday life?

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Registered: 12-01-2009
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:26pm

so sorry that has been your experience... ((((( Hugs))))) it must be so hard to live where people are so cruel....

:-(

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:28pm

Nope, it is not JUST in my area. I am sure you can research that if you would like. Bullying is ALL OVER the nation and world. Not just in "my area". Quite naive to believe that.

Again, middle school is A LOT different.

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