Teaching tolerance to our kids

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Teaching tolerance to our kids
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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:06pm

The discussion in the other thread about gay marriage (OK, it wasn’t so much a discussion as an attack on granitestategal, plus the last time I checked it had devolved into mumbling and maniacal laughter...time to move on!) got me to thinking about this new generation of kids and how things have changed for them. Technology has exploded, and kids are more connected than ever before. They’re also disconnected in a whole new way, but this thread isn’t about that. I’d like to know what we are teaching our kids as far as tolerance for other religions, races and lifestyles.

My parents were brought up by parents who were extremely prejudiced against non-Catholics and non-whites. My great-grandparents must not have passed along the lessons they’d learned as immigrants themselves. The town we lived in was predominantly white and Catholic, and up until high school I didn’t know anyone who was black, Jewish, Hispanic, or gay*. When I moved away from home, I was blown away by how different people outside my little world really were, and fascinated by it. I was, and am, determined to raise my kids to respect and appreciate the differences of others and to understand that deep down we really aren’t that different.

A few years ago when DS was 4, we ran into the husband of a co-worker at a music festival. My co-worker is also male. I probably went overboard in my introduction, but I wanted to get the point across that it’s perfectly OK for some families to consist of 2 dads or 2 moms, or one parent, or parents of different races/religions.

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Registered: 03-25-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 8:44pm
Well of course it is a range of ages, usually from 10 to pehaps 14. The upper ends of middle school where more maturity has hopefully sunk into the kids is at the ages of 13 and 14. I would think however if there is a problem and a track record of bullies in view on my underage child's facebook, there wouldn't be a facebook much longer.
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Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:03pm

Ok so I assume that your discipline as changed through the years, correct?

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:04pm

I was pretty much over this discussion last night. Sorry you feel the need to resurrect it. I'm done though. Thanks :)

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:05pm

Our middle school is now 6/7/8. When I went to the same school it was called "Junior" high and it was 7/8 grades.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:06pm

What "details" did you want? lol!!

Seems either you do NOT discipline OR your discipline techniques are EXACTLY like mine and you can't admit that.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:07pm

No elaboration needed. Different ages, different discipline.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:09pm

I have asked the SAME question in the past. If fb took down the sites. Don't think I got an answer then. Probably because they did not and she realized that it is a waste of time (or at least most everyone else thinks that).

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:10pm

If your child was bullied on fb, you would eliminate the entire fb page for them instead of just having them de-friend the bully?

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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:13pm

to clear up what i initially debated in this thread (i don't know if it was removed or not), someone gets upset

 

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:20pm

Yep, ITA with you. It doesn't seem like that fb took down the sites so what was she accomplishing? The parents did not care and neither does fb. Sounds like bullying to me when you try to put your beliefs onto someone else to the point of going to 3 different sources, the child, the parent and the site.

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