Teaching tolerance to our kids

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Registered: 06-16-2010
Teaching tolerance to our kids
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Mon, 12-27-2010 - 4:06pm

The discussion in the other thread about gay marriage (OK, it wasn’t so much a discussion as an attack on granitestategal, plus the last time I checked it had devolved into mumbling and maniacal laughter...time to move on!) got me to thinking about this new generation of kids and how things have changed for them. Technology has exploded, and kids are more connected than ever before. They’re also disconnected in a whole new way, but this thread isn’t about that. I’d like to know what we are teaching our kids as far as tolerance for other religions, races and lifestyles.

My parents were brought up by parents who were extremely prejudiced against non-Catholics and non-whites. My great-grandparents must not have passed along the lessons they’d learned as immigrants themselves. The town we lived in was predominantly white and Catholic, and up until high school I didn’t know anyone who was black, Jewish, Hispanic, or gay*. When I moved away from home, I was blown away by how different people outside my little world really were, and fascinated by it. I was, and am, determined to raise my kids to respect and appreciate the differences of others and to understand that deep down we really aren’t that different.

A few years ago when DS was 4, we ran into the husband of a co-worker at a music festival. My co-worker is also male. I probably went overboard in my introduction, but I wanted to get the point across that it’s perfectly OK for some families to consist of 2 dads or 2 moms, or one parent, or parents of different races/religions.

Kevali


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Registered: 03-25-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 1:53pm
No that isn't accurate, just as breaking tos here is ivillages problem, underage accounts are also facebooks problem./

I will say again, it doesn't matter....anyone who has a facebook account under the age of 13 is lying, breaking the rules, not following tos...whatever you want to call it. It's not the parents rules, it isn't playing God as egd states, they are facebook rules and they have been broken, ignored or whatever for anyone under the age of 13.

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Registered: 03-25-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 1:55pm
Then stop assuming that facebook isn't doing something about it....it's clear they haven't changed the rules, so that should be a pretty clear message.
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Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 1:55pm

So you don't think parents should know exactly what their child is doing and saying online? What others they are friends with are doing and saying online?

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 1:56pm

I WILL assume until I hear it from the poster IF she has SEEN it happen.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 1:56pm
No that was my question, to you. Why would you encourage a child to lie, approve of that lie....by allowing an underage faceook?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 1:58pm

The general principal of discipline is the same over the years; just the specifics are different based on ages?
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Registered: 10-22-2009
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 2:01pm

Well thats good...We have never had that kind of issue, probably b/c the boys are not friends with catty girls. ;)

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 2:01pm

Sigh...no, I do not encourage a child to lie and yes, I know it is lying to have a fb underage...yadda yadda....

Do you EVER break the rules? (minor ones because IMO having a fb account under 13 is a MINOR rule) BAER.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 2:02pm

Discipline is discipline. The ways of discipline do change over the years, IME. I don't give my 12 yr. old a time out anymore like I would do when she was 2. (Me personally would LOVE a 39 min. time out now-lol!!).

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Registered: 03-25-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 2:02pm
Accepting friend requests is something that we discuss on an on-going basis, only accept those that you know. Don't just accept someone because they go to the same school or whatever...I think that is the key in not having a whole lot of problems on facebook.

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