Teenagers working

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Fri, 07-02-2010 - 12:16pm

Scenario:

Teenager is two months from turning 14. All on his own, he's started helping out at a local agricultural type business doing things like filling bags. It's his best friend's family business and the best friend helps out in the same way - long tradition in this rural community though the child in question is not part of that family. He has helped out here and there in the past, very infrequently. Now that school is out he is getting himself up early Saturday, showering, eating breakfast and heading over to the business to help out with his friend, showing a great deal of initiative, and responsibility. Teen works from 4-6 hours one day a week and is paid cash, and one other local kid does this with them, then they all come back to the teens house to swim, ride bikes and hang out so there is a social aspect to this (he's working with his friends for a while, then taking it easy with his friends the rest of the day). He's not obligated to work, if he has other plans and doesn't feel like he doesn't need to go over there, he's only going because he wants to (this is the parents observation as the child does not always go when something more interesting comes up).

State law says no child under 14 years old can work, a child over 14 years old can work as long as it's not a school day and no more than 4 hours per day, with a permit. Obviously the state is not keen on people being paid under the table.

Do you think a tradition of children working on farms and in agricultural businesses say, one 6-hour day a week in the summers is bad in general, bad only because it's against a state law, or not bad at all? Would you intervene and tell the child he can't do it anymore?

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 6:33pm
It's my sister. I don't know if it's ever come up (I guess it has), but I'll ask her :)

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 1:15pm

OMG..LOL.


I'm sorely missing a Monet as well.


However, I have 7 kids streaking through my house right now. So even if I had one...It'd be a doodle pad right now. And another kid would be wearing the frame. And I'd be stitching up another one in the bathroom.......


About the notion someone posted

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 6:34am

ha!

"This one year at band camp..... I made a 200% profit." (I'm guessing that's NOT a typical "This one year at band camp...." story ;)

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 6:31am

I've been working for more than 30 years, and I still have no monet.

(Life is not fair....)

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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 11:49pm
OIC. No, the kid in this case doesn't need to work either. Other times of the year he has baseball, or wrestling, plus is involved in the music program, and school. Right now is a lull where he really has nothing much of anything going on, this job isn't more than a one-day-at-a-time commitment, it gives him time with his best friend and money to have to do things with his friends. Not a need, but a want on his part.

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Registered: 08-27-2007
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 6:41pm

I was thinking the 12-9 shirt at McDonalds or 5 am 1pm shift at Timmys.


I dont want that for him right now. We are in place where he doesnt need to work to get what he enjoys.


He needs to get good grades and help out around the house doing his chores and we will provide his relaxations (within reasons).


Also rigt now he does competative gamming. He plays tournaments and he has been courted by some high profile groups.


I want this for him right now. He enjoys it and hes good at it. I dont think he needs to work right now.


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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 3:51pm
Now that is a born entrepreneur!











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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 2:30pm
Yeah, my younger son is not happy if he is not making money and he has been this way since he was about eight. I sent him off to orchestra camp earlier this summer with eight one dollar bills in his pocket and he came home with 25 after he found a coupon for a half price pizza delivery, ordered a pizza, sold it by the slice to his dormmates, and did that every day for a week. He had pizza and soda every night and so did all the kids on his dorm floor and he still made a profit. The kid is just like that.
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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 11:18am

I agree. Just because a kid prefers to do something that we consider work doesn't mean that it feels like work to the kid. If he finds a certain activity enjoyable, then paying him when he independently CHOOSES to engage in said activity does not deprive him of his childhood.












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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 10:51am
I don't think you can go wrong with that approach, but what does it mean to be a kid vs. be an adult in terms of responsibility, ability to choose what what does on a given day, who one spends their time with? Is a 13 yo who volunteers to do something along side his friends, that gives him some money to do other things he enjoys with those same friends, being less of a kid than a 16 yo who does chores around the house for no money and then goes and spends time with his friends?

Say not, 'I have found the truth,' but rather, 'I have found a truth.' -Kahlil Gibran



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