Thanksgiviing Plans

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Thanksgiviing Plans
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 1:52pm

I used to drive my MIL half-mad, I am sure. She tried several times to manipulate me to manipulate her son to do what she wanted him to do. She would also try to get me to tell her about his financial dealings, which are none of her business, especially not since she thinks that her children's belongings are her belongings.

So when she geared up for one of these, I would do my best possible impersonation of a dumb blonde (I am tall and blonde, and she is Greek). "Oh, I wouldn't know about that." "Oh, I wouldn't like to talk to dh about boring, difficult things like that." "Bank accounts? But those are in the bank, aren't they? How would I know about those?"

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 1:55pm

A hostess gift is nice.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 1:59pm
I always try to ask if the hostess wants me to bring something. Most of the dinners I attend are with family though, so it's a little bit easier to do that. If she says no, I don't bring anything.
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Mon, 11-14-2011 - 2:05pm
That is hilarious! Fortunately, my family is very laid back so our holidays are usually quite enjoyable and not full of unspoken or underlying tension. Dh's family occasionally does have a bit of tension sometimes due to some strong personalities but for the most part, they all get along w/o any quirky demands. We rarely spend holidays with them since they live on the west coast, which is probably why I am able to have a pretty healthy relationship with all of them! ;)
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 2:09pm
eh, different strokes. we've had people over who have brought a dessert, chocolates or bottle of wine, it almost always gets opened. and i think desserts are different htan the main course, we can chat over something someone else brings until or after my dinner is served.

 

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 2:17pm

Chocolates or a bottle of wine I would consider to be a hostess gift.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 2:31pm

why should your "keyed to" dessert be the only one served? what about, my dessert is this.. but susie was nice enough to bring a little something too.....

we've had a few dinner guests over the years but one that strikes me as applicable here is when we had a priest over a few years ago, he makes bread and brought a loaf, totally unexpected.

 

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 2:34pm
egd3blessed wrote:

why should your "keyed to" dessert be the only one served?

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Mon, 11-14-2011 - 2:38pm
Because it's HER dinner party. That she planned, prepped, cooked, etc. It would be rude to upstage her, or negate her hard work, or (depending on the quality of said uninvited dessert) cast a pall on an otherwise wonderful meal.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 3:01pm
thanks, puts a whole new perspective on, what can i bring... because when i say nothing i'd better be sure to include no dessert or it might upstage a keyed to one i make.

 

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