Then and Now Fluff

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Then and Now Fluff
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Sun, 12-14-2014 - 9:59am

The Remember When thread has me thinking about myself when I first came to iVillage and how much things have changed since then.  Anybody else want to play?

I came to iVillage in the summer of 2000.  I was 36 and working as HR Manager for an internationally-owned manufacturing company  I was divorced with a 6 1/2-yr-old disabled son, and my ex had committed suicide a few months before.  This was actually the event that led me to iVillage in the first place.  I was one of those "Have to work" moms and was told by several when I first came here that I had no place in this debate because I had no choice.  

Now, I'm 51 and my son is 21.  For the past tnot-quite-ten years I've worked as the business manager for a small architecture firm.  Eight years ago, I also absorbed the marketing coordinator's position.  The job(s) and the company have been overwhelmingly stressful at times but have changed greatly over the past few years, due to economic/market and ownership changes.  I am now in a very comfortable position within the company.  I also no longer really have to work.  My son is now in a position to offer to take care of things if I want to quit and take some time to figure out what I want to do.  That offer has led me to the realization that despite the stress, long hours (which really isn't an issue anymore anyway) and frustration, I am already doing what I want to do.  I'll be sticking around there.  


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Registered: 12-22-2013
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:06pm

Requesting to follow someone on facebook is not "stalking."

This was not a request, they just started doing it. 

Linked in is a public site is not considered stalking. Just as much as it is not considered stalking if you leave your entire facebook open for everyone to see. That is your own fault if anyone does that and then complains people know what they post. 

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:06pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Says the woman who posts pics of herself on FB in bikinis. &lt;eyeroll&gt; I'm not trying to impress you or anyone else, Ginger--I'm just stating a fact.  My husband loves my body. And don't go all prudish--we're heard plenty about Swiper chasing you around the bed over the years. Save the pearl clutching for Jambles. It's disingenuous from you.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Talk about stalking lol. I don't put up anything to impress. That is the only type of bathing suit I wear and the pics you saw were ones my hubby took. He thinks since I work so hard at exercise that I should be wearing them. Shrug.</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">If you want to attack me because I have a medical condition that requires invasive procedures to get pregnant, go right ahead. Once again, that's just proving what a unconsciable BITCH you are. Quite honestly, I'm enjoying infertility right now. All the sex I want and no need for birth control. But by all means, feel free to attack me for something completely out of control and show us all just how fucking classy you are.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>I only attacked you because you attacked me. That is great you are enjoying your infertility. I have enjoyed my dh's V over 7 years ago as there is no need for birth control either. </strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Does it help that I didn't need a Christmas bonus to pay for my babies?</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Nah, we just don't have to work as many hours as your dh. Heck my dh makes quite a lot of money for the hours he works. lol</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p>

That's great! All the more time for petty theft! If my husband had hobbies like your husband's hobbies, I wouldn't be bragging about all his free time. Maybe a little more work-y would = a little less stealing. Just sayin....

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:07pm

<<Talk about stalking lol. I don't put up anything to impress. That is the only type of bathing suit I wear and the pics you saw were ones my hubby took. He thinks since I work so hard at exercise that I should be wearing them. Shrug.>>

Molls, it's not stalking because you talked about your bikini pictures on facebook and how proud you were of them.  If you didn't want to impress everyone then you could have mentioned it about 100 times less here, lol.

<<I only attacked you because you attacked me. That is great you are enjoying your infertility. I have enjoyed my dh's V over 7 years ago as there is no need for birth control either. >>

So then quit whining when someone says something to you because you have pretty much attacked everyone here first besides....maybe jams?  

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:08pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>blackandwhitemolly</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;I guess the name just popped up on my twitter like it did on Paolo's. Shrug.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yeah--like you don't regularly stalk us on Linked In. We can actually SEE that, Ginger.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Just like I saw Chestnut's dh "stalk" me on linked in and Ducky's dd tried to follow me on fb. Linkedin is a PUBLIC forum and that is not stalking for your information. Trying to follow someone on fb IS stalking. </p>

Trying to follow someone on FB is NOT necessarily stalking.  It can be, but it can also not be.  

Stalking can be done in public...be it an online forum or IRL.  It's more the intent and the knowledge that the observation would not be well-received, among other little sniggly details, that would qualify it as stalking...not whether it's done in public or private.  


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Registered: 12-29-1999
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:09pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p>&lt;&lt;<strong>Talk about stalking lol. I don't put up anything to impress. That is the only type of bathing suit I wear and the pics you saw were ones my hubby took. He thinks since I work so hard at exercise that I should be wearing them. Shrug.&gt;&gt;</strong></p><p><strong>Molls, it's not stalking because you talked about your bikini pictures on facebook and how proud you were of them.  If you didn't want to impress everyone then you could have mentioned it about 100 times less here, lol.</strong></p><p><strong>&lt;&lt;</strong><strong>I only attacked you because you attacked me. That is great you are enjoying your infertility. I have enjoyed my dh's V over 7 years ago as there is no need for birth control either. &gt;&gt;</strong></p><p><strong>So then quit whining when someone says something to you because you have pretty much attacked everyone here first besides....maybe jams?  </strong></p>

"I only attacked you b/c you attacked me first."

Wow--are we in kindergarten? Mooooom, the Queen started it. <eyeroll>

Am I the ONLY person noticing that she still doesn't have the proof to post? Pathetic.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:12pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Requesting to follow someone on facebook is not "stalking."</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>This was not a request, they just started doing it. </span></span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span> Linked in is a public site is not considered stalking. Just as much as it is not considered stalking if you leave your entire facebook open for everyone to see. That is your own fault if anyone does that and then complains people know what they post. </span></span></strong></p>

So is it your fault that you created a fake name and worked to find a bunch of people (including minor children) under that name or are you going to shift the blame of your behavior onto someone else?  Again.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:14pm

I didn't make you wait three months. You told me what you had and I called bullshit on it. I'd post the message in its entirety but I can't access it b/c I don't remember the password for the account I created SOLELY to correspond with you b/c you are that untrustworthy.

and I called you on your lying and you never answered. Because you KNEW it was true. You used your Queen account, how was the soley for ME when you used that name for months?

You have nothing b/c there IS nothing. As much as you wish you could find something on my husband to humiliate me like I humiliated you with that link to Swiper's arrest, there is nothing remotely salacious in DH's life. But by all means, keep working to photoshop something in your pathetic attempt to humiliate me. LIke I said, the banshees could use yet another laugh at your expense today.

No photoshop but I WILL have the class to send it ONLY to you. Which account name are you going by today?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:14pm

mygarnetboy wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;&lt;strong&gt;Talk about stalking lol. I don't put up anything to impress. That is the only type of bathing suit I wear and the pics you saw were ones my hubby took. He thinks since I work so hard at exercise that I should be wearing them. Shrug.&amp;gt;&amp;gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Molls, it's not stalking because you talked about your bikini pictures on facebook and how proud you were of them.  If you didn't want to impress everyone then you could have mentioned it about 100 times less here, lol.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;strong&gt;I only attacked you because you attacked me. That is great you are enjoying your infertility. I have enjoyed my dh's V over 7 years ago as there is no need for birth control either. &amp;gt;&amp;gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;So then quit whining when someone says something to you because you have pretty much attacked everyone here first besides....maybe jams?  &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>"I only attacked you b/c you attacked me first."</p><p>Wow--are we in kindergarten? Mooooom, the Queen started it. &lt;eyeroll&gt;</p><p>Am I the ONLY person noticing that she still doesn't have the proof to post? Pathetic.</p>

OMG, you are lucky you have been busy and not been here...if I had to hear one more time about how I should have stood up to you and forced you not to post the information (that molls is claiming doesn't exsist), how I should have talked to you about your behavior....I think my eyes were going to roll back in my head with molls nagging and whining about the issue.

You're welcome.  Wink

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:15pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I didn't make you wait three months. You told me what you had and I called bullshit on it. I'd post the message in its entirety but I can't access it b/c I don't remember the password for the account I created SOLELY to correspond with you b/c you are that untrustworthy.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>and I called you on your lying and you never answered. Because you KNEW it was true. You used your Queen account, how was the soley for ME when you used that name for months?</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You have nothing b/c there IS nothing. As much as you wish you could find something on my husband to humiliate me like I humiliated you with that link to Swiper's arrest, there is nothing remotely salacious in DH's life. But by all means, keep working to photoshop something in your pathetic attempt to humiliate me. LIke I said, the banshees could use yet another laugh at your expense today.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>No photoshop but I WILL have the class to send it ONLY to you. Which account name are you going by today</strong>?</p>

Earlier today you asked public or private...now you are flip flopping yet again?  Sheesh, can you not make up your mind?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Tue, 12-16-2014 - 3:16pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I didn't make you wait three months. You told me what you had and I called bullshit on it. I'd post the message in its entirety but I can't access it b/c I don't remember the password for the account I created SOLELY to correspond with you b/c you are that untrustworthy.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>and I called you on your lying and you never answered. Because you KNEW it was true. You used your Queen account, how was the soley for ME when you used that name for months?</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You have nothing b/c there IS nothing. As much as you wish you could find something on my husband to humiliate me like I humiliated you with that link to Swiper's arrest, there is nothing remotely salacious in DH's life. But by all means, keep working to photoshop something in your pathetic attempt to humiliate me. LIke I said, the banshees could use yet another laugh at your expense today.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>No photoshop but I WILL have the class to send it ONLY to you. Which account name are you going by today</strong>?</p>

Hmmm--I never got the message in which you "called me on my lying." But call me a liar for making a simple mistake all you want. I know the truth. And frankly, I have far more credibility as it relates to truth telling than you do. And you can post your proof on here. I think the Banshees are eagerly anticipating the opportunity to scope out your photoshop skills...

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