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Thorn in your side Tuesday
| Tue, 10-07-2014 - 9:40am |
Admit it, There's always going to be somebody, something or something somebody does or says that bothers you. When that happens how do you deal with it

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The difference is that we are acting or reacting differently than you are, therefore we have different results. You can't control the person but you guys can control yourself and your actions.
PumpkinAngel
Until you get over it, nothing will change. This is a pattern that repeats itself over and over in discussion here and has for years, your actions and the actions of the other person have not changed....so why are you expecting a different result?
PumpkinAngel
Sure you can, unless they have tied you to a chair or something...are people forcing you to call them and talk to them about this on a regular basis? Is that what is happening...you are forced against your will to partipate in discussions and forced to remain while people talk to you about this subject?
PumpkinAngel
In this previous post, you specifically said; ""To the point of ignoring texts and having to tell them to stop on the phone and they hanging up on you.""
PumpkinAngel
Then why are you spending time with these "others"? Walk away until they learn to stop bringing it up all the time.
PumpkinAngel
And I would add to Molly--what Dr. Phil says. Is that working for you? It doesn't seem to be.
“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.”
― Markus Zusak, The Book Thief
What on earth did you do to pisss her off? Fake a pregnancy or something?
The difference is that we are acting or reacting differently than you are, therefore we have different results. You can't control the person but you guys can control yourself and your actions.
The difference is, I am SURE you have never dealt with someone like this, ever. We have controlled our actions to the point that contact is far and few between BUT there still WILL be contact and unfortunately many times the past is brought up because that is the other person's m.o.
Until you get over it, nothing will change. This is a pattern that repeats itself over and over in discussion here and has for years, your actions and the actions of the other person have not changed....so why are you expecting a different result?
What you are not understanding is that, the pattern is NO fault of our own. There is no action to start it and the action to try and stop it doesn't always work.
Sure you can, unless they have tied you to a chair or something...are people forcing you to call them and talk to them about this on a regular basis? Is that what is happening...you are forced against your will to partipate in discussions and forced to remain while people talk to you about this subject?
I feel like a broken record. Did you read when I say they are told to stop and sometimes don't? Did you not read that there wants to be a relationship there?
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