Thorn in your side Tuesday

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Thorn in your side Tuesday
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Tue, 10-07-2014 - 9:40am

Admit it, There's always going to be somebody, something or something somebody does or says that bothers you.  When that happens how do you deal with it 

 

 

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Registered: 08-13-2013
Wed, 10-08-2014 - 7:31pm

The action to end it is for you to disengage. Quit telling her to stop. Just get up and walk away, or hang up the phone. You are choosing to be a victim.

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Wed, 10-08-2014 - 7:32pm

Then why are you spending time with these "others"?  Walk away until they learn to stop bringing it up all the time.  

I am not, as I have stated before. 

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Wed, 10-08-2014 - 7:35pm

What on earth did you do to pisss her off?  Fake a pregnancy or something?

lololol, that is a good one but no.

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Wed, 10-08-2014 - 7:37pm

The action to end it is for you to disengage. Quit telling her to stop. Just get up and walk away, or hang up the phone. You are choosing to be a victim.

Again, no walking away and yes, conversations have been stopped. We are not victims as we end it but again, it is a never ending battle that the past (and not just this incident) always has to be a part of the conversation. 

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 10-08-2014 - 7:53pm

iamvelma wrote:
<p>What on earth did you do to pisss her off?  Fake a pregnancy or something?</p>

Dated her son, married her son, took a honeymoon, chose to have kids with her son, chose a different name for her child than what she wanted, choose to make meatballs by hand not frozen...  Am I close, Molly?  :D

 

 

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Wed, 10-08-2014 - 7:59pm
iamvelma wrote:
<p>What on earth did you do to pisss her off?  Fake a pregnancy or something?</p>

Dated her son, married her son, took a honeymoon, chose to have kids with her son, chose a different name for her child than what she wanted, choose to make meatballs by hand not frozen...  Am I close, Molly?  :D

lololol. Yep. At that time we were just dating, not even engaged. She DID tell people though that if she still lived near us after we got married she would see to it that she would have us divorced. Our marriage would have never made it. No matter how strong we were, it would have been a living hell. 

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 10-08-2014 - 7:59pm

Yes, a broken record!  And frankly, the unsolicited advice is nauseating, Lol.

 

 

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Wed, 10-08-2014 - 8:01pm

Yes, a broken record! And frankly the unsolicited advice is nauseating, Lol.

It is hard to explain but the stories can blow your mind. Why would ANYONE invite that kind of stuff in their lives over and over? The point is it is NOT welcome but that does not mean it is not thrown at you time and time again.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 10-09-2014 - 10:19am

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>blackandwhitemolly</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;He has but again, you don't get it and obviously and luckiy have never had to deal with someone like this before.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p style="font-size:13px"></p><p style="font-size:13px">The difference is that we are acting or reacting differently than you are, therefore we have different results.  You can't control the person but you guys can control yourself and your actions.</p><p style="font-size:13px">The difference is, I am SURE you have never dealt with someone like this, ever. We have controlled our actions to the point that contact is far and few between BUT there still WILL be contact and unfortunately many times the past is brought up because that is the other person's m.o. </p>

Don't be so sure there, I just handle things differently than you, that is more of the difference.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 10-09-2014 - 10:20am

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Then why are you spending time with these "others"?  Walk away until they learn to stop bringing it up all the time.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px">I am not, as I have stated before. </span></p>

If you aren't spending time with the source or the "others", then you shouldn't be hearing it every few months. 

PumpkinAngel

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