Thorn in your side Tuesday

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Thorn in your side Tuesday
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Tue, 10-07-2014 - 9:40am

Admit it, There's always going to be somebody, something or something somebody does or says that bothers you.  When that happens how do you deal with it 

 

 

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:25pm

I want the past to stay in the past and for them to have a relationship. I cant see that ever happening though.

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:27pm

Exactly, Lauren1063. 

Molly, you've repeatedly said that you ask her to stop. Don't ask again, simply walk away. Don't talk to your sister, your sil, or anyone else about it. Don't let them talk to you about it. If you've already communicated that, then you can walk away from them too.

Sigh....I dont speak to her. I dont speak about it outside of the person speaking to her, except for right here, right now. I have no choice when I am right there. You cant miss it.

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:29pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p>I want the past to stay in the past and for them to have a relationship. I cant see that ever happening though.</p>

But what do you want to happen? What actions do you want taken?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Registered: 08-13-2013
Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:31pm

You always have a choice.... 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2013
Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:31pm

Can't you just apologize and be done with it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:33pm

But what do you want to happen? What actions do you want taken?

The action of this person to have a normal relationship that takes place in the present and not bring up bad things from the past.

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:35pm

    Can't you just apologize and be done with it?

    Apologize? For what?

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 12-22-2013
    Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:36pm

      You always have a choice.... 

      Yes and my choice is not to have a relationship. 

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      Registered: 10-06-2010
      Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:39pm

      blackandwhitemolly wrote:
      <p><span>Exactly, Lauren1063. </span></p><p><span>Molly, you've repeatedly said that you ask her to stop. Don't ask again, simply walk away. Don't talk to your sister, your sil, or anyone else about it. Don't let them talk to you about it. If you've already communicated that, then you can walk away from them too.</span></p><p><span>Sigh....I dont speak to her. I dont speak about it outside of the person speaking to her, except for right here, right now. I have no choice when I am right there. You cant miss it.</span></p>

      You do have a choice. You can say NOTHING. to anyone.  You do have that choice.

      "I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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      Registered: 08-13-2013
      Thu, 10-09-2014 - 12:41pm

      For what ever it is that she thinks you've done.

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