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Thorn in your side Tuesday
| Tue, 10-07-2014 - 9:40am |
Admit it, There's always going to be somebody, something or something somebody does or says that bothers you. When that happens how do you deal with it

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No I get that....so who is the person who is telling you these things that they shouldn't be telling you, your dh? Why on earth would your dh pass along this type of stuff to you when he knows it bothers you?
PumpkinAngel
No, I have read your posts, again who cares...it was 20 years ago. Let it go, it really impacts you and that isn't healthy.
PumpkinAngel
So it does impact the kids, that is a shame.
PumpkinAngel
Um jams? Nobody said anything about putting kids in the middle, stop making stuff up, it does not reflect well on you. At all.
PumpkinAngel
Good for you for not placing the kids in the middle too. What a thing to say, wow.
We have tried for many years for the kids to have a relationship. I am told I want to, they are paid attention to for about a half of second and then nothing again. Think my ds will get a call or card or anything for his bday this month? Nope. Just like my dd got nothing for hers. Don't say you DO want a relationship when you put NO effort into it. Out of site, out of mind.
Given that your behavior here at times is representative of some of the traits you claim she has, I have to wonder how much this has impacted you over the years. Therapy might be a good idea if you are still holding on to this for 30 years plus. Thirty plus years is a long time to be dealing with this, with the same results, don't you think it might be time to do something different?
PumpkinAngel
What do your children do to make an effort to have a relationship with them?
PumpkinAngel
I see that you're still keeping track of missed birthdays.
No I get that....so who is the person who is telling you these things that they shouldn't be telling you, your dh? Why on earth would your dh pass along this type of stuff to you when he knows it bothers you?
Again, I am in the SAME room so I can't miss it. And my dh and I share EVERY.THING. If it wasn't for me, he would be living the same life they do.
No, I have read your posts, again who cares...it was 20 years ago. Let it go, it really impacts you and that isn't healthy.
If it ended 20 something years ago, I would have let it go ENTIRELY. Because it constantly comes back up, it is hard not too.
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