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Thorn in your side Tuesday
| Tue, 10-07-2014 - 9:40am |
Admit it, There's always going to be somebody, something or something somebody does or says that bothers you. When that happens how do you deal with it

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If it gets how far? How does *he* disengage if she's the one hanging up?
I don't think you even know what "that" is.
“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.”
― Markus Zusak, The Book Thief
Well I was joking a bit. My mom enjoys spending time with her grandchildren and interacting with them. She is retired and has more time than ME to sit around double & triple pushing buttons to text her grandaughters to talk to them.
lol. True, I get that.
If it gets how far? How does *he* disengage if she's the one hanging up?
If she starts up again bringing up anything in the past.
I said either will hang up. She hangs up when she knows she is wrong and can't use something in the past to back her up.
I don't think you even know what "that" is.
Why don't you explain.
So he does engage...... gotcha.
If it gets how far? How does *he* disengage if she's the one hanging up?
Oh my...are you still on this? Are you NOT reading what I post? I didn't say she is the one who hangs up ALL.THE.TIME.The point is if the conversation is not going anyplace and the past from 20-30 years ago comes back up, the conversation is ended. Either mutually or one side no matter what happens.
“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.”
― Markus Zusak, The Book Thief
<<I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and did with her in the beginning and many times in the past 20 something years. I wouldn't tell my kids they can't have a relationship but they have not been interested as of yet as they don't know her and I WOULD protect my kids at every cost so, yes, they TRULY wanted this, I WOULD discourage them. I would rather not go into why so please do NOT ask me and please do not go on and on about it and how horrible I am. >>
I get that you don't want them to have a relationship with these relatives, that is your choice of course and I don't think you are horrible....but that doesn't change the fact that in general older kids can make the efffort first with adult relatives which was the topic of conversation. I wouldn't protect my kids at all costs, especially as they get older, they need to learn about relationships on their own, without my interference.
<<We don't talk in front of the kids with certain matters. It CAN be done. You have never talked with your dh about important things without the kids hearing?>>
Of course, but then I'm not the one claiming that I have such a small house that it's easy to overhear what is being said on the telephone, you are.
<<You really don't get it. Some adults are VERY selfish and only think about themselves. Grandparents USUALLY think of their grandkids FIRST, not themselves.>>
No, I get it and actually I see it a bit in your posts. Aren't you thinking of yourself when you say that you would discourage a relationship with some relatives? Not that I blame you or think you are horrible for that or anything, but aren't you basing your reasons on what they did to you?
I will tell you that my parents think of themselves first, they have a great relationship with my kids, but they do think of themselves first and foremost, as they should. I don't want them placing the wants of my kids before their needs or anything....
PumpkinAngel
This is a pattern it sounds like, correct?
PumpkinAngel
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