For those who question...

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For those who question...
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Fri, 06-20-2003 - 11:03pm

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 11-20-2001
Tue, 07-08-2003 - 1:07pm
Be mindful of those who distress you ... for they may be experiencing a personal crisis themselves or have had one in the past and unlike you do not share so openly.

Linda

 

Linda - wife, mother, grandmum                     &nb

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-06-2003 - 3:22pm
Don't look now, but "just couldn't resist commenting" *is* in fact, the inability to leave my posts alone.

And that's the definition of stalking, too....

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Sat, 07-05-2003 - 10:45pm
Um, isn't that what H&I just said? That you can't leave her posts alone?
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Sat, 07-05-2003 - 9:11pm
Not at all! I saw this on the outline and just couldn't resist commenting on the irony of that statement being typing out from under your fingertips. :) C
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Sat, 07-05-2003 - 1:05am
Stalking again? You really *can't* seem to leave my posts alone, can you?
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Fri, 07-04-2003 - 9:53pm
Ironic that you feel this way...dare I say, "If the shoe fits..." C
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Mon, 06-23-2003 - 10:08am
I think it is really easy for people to judge a situation when they have not been in the situation. It is horrible that we do that to other people. You are trying your best-you can only do what is right for your family and for yourself. No one else understands the situation-no one else has lived it. You have.

The bottom line is that taking care of an ill spouse or an ill child is the single most hardest thing you will ever have to do. You are going one hundred and ten ways emotionally and physically. You are the center of your family life-the hub. You are spent and worried what is going to happen next. I always think of it as being on a cliff-you have been hanging off that cliff and climbed it by the grace of God, friends and your own strength. Now, you can lean over it and know what is going to happen if you go over. No one else knows what will happen. You have been over the cliff. Some people have not and can not judge. Not until they walk in your shoes.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 4:48pm
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Hee. Great line :)

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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 11:22am
I wrote an article for a magazine about how my husband stuck by me through a two year illness. I love what you wrote in this post. Every marriage goes through trials and if all of us bailed out at the first sign of trouble then no one would be married.

If you want to read the article you can go to my webpage and then click on the link to the magazine's online version of it. It is written from a Christian perspective and I don't know if you come from that same view or not, but even if you don't, I think you will be able to relate to some of it.

http://pages.ivillage.com/cindytree/writing.html The article was titled "For Better or For..." and was in Marriage Partnership magazine.

Stand by your convictions. You are right.

Cindy

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Sat, 06-21-2003 - 10:42am
Jumping on the bandwagon here...I agree with TM and Hank/Indys Mom....

You know the deal, you know what is the best solution for your family. You do not have to justify your actions or motives to anyone here. Some people just have this pirhana-like tendency to need to have somebody's fingers to chew on.

You do what you know you have to do. It's your family's business and no one else's.


(((HUGS)))


Lauren


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