Thrifty Thursday

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Thrifty Thursday
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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 10:03am

1. What is one thing you will spend money on? One thing that you won't?

2. Retirement money-I was watching Suze Orman the other night (don't really care for her lol) and she does a segment of "How well am I doing" and there was a 38 year old woman, married with 3 kids and she gave her a low grade. She had about $100,000 in her retirement fund and she said at her age, that was too low. Is there a goal (no need to put $ amounts down as I know that is a very personal thing) you have by a certain age or goals you had by certain ages and do you think that amount is good or bad for that age?

3. Weekend plans?

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 4:56pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p>Your child took your property without asking and then lost it and blamed you? That seems irrepsonsible.</p><p><span style="font-size:small"><strong>Ummm...no. She asked if she could borrow them. She needed them for track and gym. I had no problem with that but she can't find them now. She also has ADHD (controlled now without medication). That has a lot to do with losing things. </strong></span></p>

What's her consequence for losing your shoes? 

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 4:58pm

I don't know anyone who only works for retirement so I'll take your word for your personal experiences but the second part is interesting in light of yesterday's thread about jobs.  

You have never known someone who was working only for the benefits?

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 5:03pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">springfever2013</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;Your child took your property without asking and then lost it and blamed you? That seems irrepsonsible.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:small"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Ummm...no. She asked if she could borrow them. She needed them for track and gym. I had no problem with that but she can't find them now. She also has ADHD (controlled now without medication). That has a lot to do with losing things. &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>What's her consequence for losing your shoes? </p>

Regina, I have one with ADHD.   It doesn't really matter what the consequence is.  It won't stop them losing stuff.   My consequence was you have to replace it, and I'm sorry, but that's how life is.  People with ADHD lose stuff.  All the time.

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 5:05pm

bordwithyou wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">reginageorge2005</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;springfever2013&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Your child took your property without asking and then lost it and blamed you? That seems irrepsonsible.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:small"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;Ummm...no. She asked if she could borrow them. She needed them for track and gym. I had no problem with that but she can't find them now. She also has ADHD (controlled now without medication). That has a lot to do with losing things. &amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;What's her consequence for losing your shoes? &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Regina, I have one with ADHD.   It doesn't really matter what the consequence is.  It won't stop them losing stuff.   My consequence was you have to replace it, and I'm sorry, but that's how life is.  People with ADHD lost stuff.  All the time.</p>

I've got one w/ADD--heck, I'm pretty sure DH & I both have ADD. I'm certainly no stranger to losing stuff...but b/c of that, I've had to develop coping mechanisms to keep myself from losing stuff. And I've passed those on to DS. And ADD diagnosis or not, if he borrowed and subsequently lost something of mine, I would make him replace it. Just like I would replace something of his if I borrowed it and lost it.

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 5:05pm

springfever2013 wrote:
I totally get you and especially if you are not healthy BUT...I want to make sure I have enough money in case I live that long. </strong></span></p>

My aunt that lived to 105 WAS healthy (how do you live to 105 if you're not?).  But they had to eventually put her in a nursing home because even "healthy" at 105 isn't often able to live on their own (although she did until she was 102ish).   She was just miserable.  didn't have any family (grand nephews, cousins, etc, but all her children adn grandchildren were dead), was in a nursing home with "all these old sick people" as she put it ... it was not fun to see. :(

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 5:08pm

<<Jams, you subsititute teach?  You just said in a different thread that "Educators are far better at their jobs than I (as I push her out the car door!) "   When you are subbing, you don't think of yourself as an educator or you think of yourself as a poor educator since the others are far better than you?  What do you consider yourself to be when subbing?  A babysitter?>>

Good question,


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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 5:12pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;reginageorge2005&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;springfever2013&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;Your child took your property without asking and then lost it and blamed you? That seems irrepsonsible.&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:small"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;gt;Ummm...no. She asked if she could borrow them. She needed them for track and gym. I had no problem with that but she can't find them now. She also has ADHD (controlled now without medication). That has a lot to do with losing things. &amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;What's her consequence for losing your shoes? &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Regina, I have one with ADHD.   It doesn't really matter what the consequence is.  It won't stop them losing stuff.   My consequence was you have to replace it, and I'm sorry, but that's how life is.  People with ADHD lost stuff.  All the time.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I've got one w/ADD--heck, I'm pretty sure DH &amp; I both have ADD. I'm certainly no stranger to losing stuff...but b/c of that, I've had to develop coping mechanisms to keep myself from losing stuff. And I've passed those on to DS. And ADD diagnosis or not, if he borrowed and subsequently lost something of mine, I would make him replace it. Just like I would replace something of his if I borrowed it and lost it.</p>

I agree....you have to make stuff right, and you have to have all kinds of coping mechanisms (for instance, we have duplicates of the kid's keys, because dollars to doughnuts he's going to lose them at some point).  But there's no use getting all bent out of shape because stuff gets lost.  It's going to get lost/left behind/forgotten no matter what you do, so you might as well plan for it as best you can, and deal with it when it happens.   You should see me when DS is overseas.  I am just terrified he's going to lose his passport and his ATM card, and his backup credit card, and his phone....but luckily, one of the other effects of ADHD is creativity.  So if all that happens....he'll figure something out.  Right?

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 5:16pm

<<I don't know anyone who only works for retirement so I'll take your word for your personal experiences but the second part is interesting in light of yesterday's thread about jobs.  

You have never known someone who was working only for the benefits?>>

Was something not understood about my quoted comment about not knowing anyone who only works for retirement?   

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 5:23pm

<<I agree....you have to make stuff right, and you have to have all kinds of coping mechanisms (for instance, we have duplicates of the kid's keys, because dollars to doughnuts he's going to lose them at some point).  But there's no use getting all bent out of shape because stuff gets lost.  It's going to get lost/left behind/forgotten no matter what you do, so you might as well plan for it as best you can, and deal with it when it happens.   You should see me when DS is overseas.  I am just terrified he's going to lose his passport and his ATM card, and his backup credit card, and his phone....but luckily, one of the other effects of ADHD is creativity.  So if all that happens....he'll figure something out.  Right?>>

I totally agree and no matter how many times it happens, they have a consquence.  You should see me when he's on trips without a parent, I'm the same way.


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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 5:36pm

Wow, Losing things is an ADHD thing..  Is it fixable? 

 


 


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