Thrifty Thursday

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Thrifty Thursday
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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 10:03am

1. What is one thing you will spend money on? One thing that you won't?

2. Retirement money-I was watching Suze Orman the other night (don't really care for her lol) and she does a segment of "How well am I doing" and there was a 38 year old woman, married with 3 kids and she gave her a low grade. She had about $100,000 in her retirement fund and she said at her age, that was too low. Is there a goal (no need to put $ amounts down as I know that is a very personal thing) you have by a certain age or goals you had by certain ages and do you think that amount is good or bad for that age?

3. Weekend plans?

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 8:34pm

turtleemom wrote:
<p>Again I thought that a state funded intstitution would want their teaching staff (I consider subs staff) to be uniform in qualifications in the elementary grades.  Also It is my understanding classroom management and is part of an education degree.  That is not something I need to deal with, but a substitue would.   </p><p>Again, with a private school it is up to the school to decide on teacher qualifications.  DH and I decided we are qualified to teach our child.   The state agrees.</p>

How do you reconcile that you think others should have a higher standard than one you are willing to maintain?

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 8:25pm

As a mom of a kid who has co-morbid Aspergers/ADHD, I am familiar with atypical neurological behavior.  I do not see ADHD as an excuse or get out of jail free card.  Kids need to learn how to cope and find ways to keep track of their things.  Spring said it is under control.  To me that means coping mechanisms are being used.  If she is constantly forgetting things (which is the impression I got), I wonder how it is under control. 

No, it is under control to the point she doesn't need the meds. She can get herself up and ready for the day but that does not mean that she still does not lose things, forget things, makes messes, can only be given one thing at a time to do, everything that an ADHD child is diagnosed with. 

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 8:19pm

You orginally put borrowed in quotes as if to imply she took them without permission.  Why doesn't she wear her own shoes for track and gym? How do you lose shoes? DId she come home barefoot that day? 

Does she turn in homeworK?  Does she remember things to do with her friends?  Is she just forgetful when it comes to you?    If her ADHD is under control wouldn't she not be forgetting things? 

Do you have a child with ADD/ADHD? I have one with and one without. If I had the one without first I would be asking the EXACT same questions. It is like dealing with a WHOLE different animal. 

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 8:15pm

What's her consequence for losing your shoes? 

Well since the year is not up yet and I am thinking they are in either her regular or gym locker, I will have to figure that out at the end of the school year.

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 7:10pm

turtleemom wrote:
<p>;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I suspect since Spring didn't describe an entire regimen of chains, and slave labor and the rack as a consequence for losing her gym shoes, Turtle has translated that to 'get out of jail free."  Frankly, if Spring doesn't want to punish her daughter for losing the shoes, that's up to Spring.  If it wasn't done maliciously, I'd likely not try to exact my pound of flesh, if that had happened to me, either.&lt;/p&gt;</p><p>As I said," You didn't.  I got the impression that it is for Spring's daughter.   Why? Probably because she did not follow up with a consequence as you did when explaining how your son makes good on lost objects."   </p>

Except I wrote that and I haven't said squat about my son or any consequences he might have faced (or not) upon losing things.

In the meantime as I was getting dinner in the oven, it also occurred to me that Spring may not yet have given up her gym shoes as lost forever.  Jambles mentioned that in her kids' case, often things that went missing are miraculously found at the end of the school year as the lockers are cleared out and maybe Spring things her gym shoes will show up then.

I'd feel pretty awful making my kid pay for losing something, only to have it turn back up again later.  You, of course, may not, but I like to think there's room in the world for both kinds of parenting.

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 7:08pm
Crap, Turtlenom, you don't stop with the assumptions, do you? Of course my son had more going on than "just" ADHD. He's like everybody else, a whole human being with strengths, weaknesses, gifts, talents, whatever. He's not a walking diagnosis. And the problem isn't that you "hit one of my hot spots." The problem is that you asked a bunch of snotty, rude questions about a kid with memory problems. Your questions implied irresponsibility/disrespect on the kids' part, rather than a disability.
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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 7:01pm

All I know is what is shared here.  I made some assumptions and they might be wrong. 

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 6:59pm

From your comments I assume your son has more going on than just ADHD.  Obviously I have hit a hot spot.  I apologize for offending you which was not my intention. 

My orignial comments were to Spring and her daughter and her ADHD.  My guess is that your son's dx are not the same as hers   As I am sure you know, ADHD does not maninfest the same in every child nor does it .  Not all parents respond to the ADHD the same way.  Some do see it as an excuse for poor behavior.  I am not saying that Spring does, but I was wondering.

Other than apologize for hitting one of your buttons, there is nothing I can do.  You can move on or stay miffed.  It is up to you.

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 6:53pm

turtleemom wrote:
As I said," You didn't.  I got the impression that it is for Spring's daughter.   Why? Probably because she did not follow up with a consequence as you did when explaining how your son makes good on lost objects."   </p>

How do you know she didn't follow up with a consequence?  Because she didn't share it with the class? Maybe she doesn't feel it's your business.  Or maybe it's just not on her radar of "Things worth bothering about today."  Maybe on another day it would be but maybe THIS week, there's other stuff that's of more importance.

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Thu, 05-02-2013 - 6:50pm

;</blockquote></p><p>I suspect since Spring didn't describe an entire regimen of chains, and slave labor and the rack as a consequence for losing her gym shoes, Turtle has translated that to 'get out of jail free."  Frankly, if Spring doesn't want to punish her daughter for losing the shoes, that's up to Spring.  If it wasn't done maliciously, I'd likely not try to exact my pound of flesh, if that had happened to me, either.</p>[/quote]

As I said," You didn't.  I got the impression that it is for Spring's daughter.   Why? Probably because she did not follow up with a consequence as you did when explaining how your son makes good on lost objects."   

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