Thursday Three

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Thu, 07-18-2013 - 9:15am

Manicured or could you care less what your yard looks like?

What kind of dresser are you - classy, trendy, bold or combination/no one particular style?

Cook in/grill out or go out on a scorching hot day?  

 


 


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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:28am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>I don't buy his clothes but he will often ask me if something works with something else or whether he should dress up of dress down for X event, and he values my input just like I value his. We're a good team, most days anyway.</blockquote></p><p>Why change your posts??  Earlier: &lt;&lt;Nobody said that they let their dh dictate what they wear. Just that they care what they think.  <strong>But, actually, my dh actually chooses much of my clothing. He has quite an eye for fashion and is very good at picking out things that are flattering on me/my body type.  And when I go shopping with him, I end up bringing a lot more things home. </strong> Now, if he could only dress himself as well as he dresses me, lol.&gt;&gt;</p><p>First, why would you want your husband with you shopping?  I've very, very rarely seen men with wives shopping in the women's departments.  But when I do, it's creepy and gross.  And you make your own money ~ he doesn't pay for anything you buy. Do you let him choose what you read, eat?  I doubt it.</p><p>Plus, you've changed your post from he chooses "much of my clothing" to just 2 items.  That looks very controlling and 1950s.  Much like every one of Savcal's dresses.</p>

It is SavCal's husband who goes shopping with her and offers his input on her clothing choices.  My husband and I do not shop together for clothing.

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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:35am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><em>My DH has only given me compliments as he well should. I know women's fashion</em></p><p>This would be us, I get compliments but he has little to no say in what I buy.  I also agree that it's a little creepish to me to see men with their gf/wives in the womens department, When we go shopping (I loathe dept stores/malls so this is rare I must admit) and enter the womens department he almost immediately refrains and says he'll meet up with me in a little while, Lol.  DH has a pretty good clue of what I like and he can be a good gift giver but generally and most of the time, I buy my own clothes myself. </p>

Ugh, it makes my skin crawl.  If it's about money and a husband puts a limit on what she spends, so be it.  But to check up on that, well things can be returned, or there's just not much trust.  I don't "see" that with Bord.

Isn't it great to be married to a man who's a "good gift giver."  Years ago, with my first jewelry, lol, my mom said be happy he gives such nice gifts and knows what you like.  I didn't realize then how right she was.

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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:37am

emptynester2009 wrote:
You are mixing up posters, the quote about her DH going shoppng with her was made by Savcal not Bord.   </span></p>

Nope ~ <<And when I go shopping with him, I end up bringing a lot more things home.>>

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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:45am

bordwithyou wrote:
    It is SavCal's husband who goes shopping with her and offers his input on her clothing choices.  My husband and I do not shop together for clothing.</p>

Okay, if you say that now.  Earlier you said this and it was the opposite, but not my concern...<<And when I go shopping with him, I end up bringing a lot more things home.>>

I would not go shopping with my husband except for a very,very big ticket item like when I bought a fur.  That was a quick try on, lasted 3 minutes, after I'd researched and tried on many, many furs alone.  I wanted his opinion, not the other way around.  I can't imagine anything more boring to my husband than shopping for women's clothes so I'm surprised your dh wants to go shopping with you for your clothes.

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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:45am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">emptynester2009</em> wrote:</div> You are mixing up posters, the quote about her DH going shoppng with her was made by Savcal not Bord.   &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Nope ~ &lt;&lt;<strong>And when I go shopping with him, I end up bringing a lot more things home.&gt;&gt;</strong></p>

SavCal said that, not Bord. 

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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:48am

**Earlier: <<Nobody said that they let their dh dictate what they wear. Just that they care what they think.  But, actually, my dh actually chooses much of my clothing. He has quite an eye for fashion and is very good at picking out things that are flattering on me/my body type.  And when I go shopping with him, I end up bringing a lot more things home.  Now, if he could only dress himself as well as he dresses me, lol.>>**

 

Umm, that was ME that said that.

<<First, why would you want your husband with you shopping?>> - because he's good at it.  Why *woudn't* I want my husband with me shopping?

<<But when I do, it's creepy and gross. >> It's creepy and gross for my husband to see me in lots of different clothes?   It's not like he's hanging out in the dressing room peeping or anything.  

<<And you make your own money ~ he doesn't pay for anything you buy. >> -- We don't have his money or my money. It's our money. 

<<Do you let him choose what you read, eat?  I doubt it.>> -- Actually, he does often choose what I eat.  If he's in the mood for shrimp scampi, I"ll make shrimp scampi. If he's got a hankerin' for grilled peppers and mushrooms, I'll make grilled peppers and mushrooms.  If he's read a good book, he'll recommend it and I will often read it.   'Cause you know, we respect each others' opinions and all that good marriage jazz.

<<Much like every one of Savcal's dresses.>> - dresses are "controlling"?

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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:49am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>    It is SavCal's husband who goes shopping with her and offers his input on her clothing choices.  My husband and I do not shop together for clothing.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Okay, if you say that now.  Earlier you said this and it was the opposite, but not my concern...&lt;&lt;<strong>And when I go shopping with him, I end up bringing a lot more things home.&gt;&gt;</strong></p><p>I would not go shopping with my husband except for a very,very big ticket item like when I bought a fur.  That was a quick try on, lasted 3 minutes, after I'd researched and tried on many, many furs alone.  I wanted his opinion, not the other way around.  I can't imagine anything more boring to my husband than shopping for women's clothes so I'm surprised your dh wants to go shopping with you for your clothes.<strong><br /></strong></p>

No, really, it was SavCal's husband who goes shopping for clothing with her, not mine, and it was SavCal who sometimes brings home more things than she intended when her husband goes shopping with her.   I'm the one who hates to shop and who owns five dresses total, two of which I suspect are too big.  She's the one who joneses over clothing.

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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:50am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><em>My DH has only given me compliments as he well should. I know women's fashion</em></p><p>This would be us, I get compliments but he has little to no say in what I buy.  I also agree that it's a little creepish to me to see men with their gf/wives in the womens department, When we go shopping (I loathe dept stores/malls so this is rare I must admit) and enter the womens department he almost immediately refrains and says he'll meet up with me in a little while, Lol.  DH has a pretty good clue of what I like and he can be a good gift giver but generally and most of the time, I buy my own clothes myself. </p>

I'm sorry to hear that your husband has such a lack of confidence that he's uncomfortable aroudn women's clothes. Is he maybe homophobic?

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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:53am

<<  If it's about money and a husband puts a limit on what she spends, so be it. >> 

 

BWAHAHAHAH!   For us, it's the opposite.   I spend MORE when dh is with me.   I tend to feel anxious over spending money on myself.  And sometimes if I find something I like, that looks good on me, I'll waffle over buying it because I feel like maybe I shouldn't spend the money (and it's not a matter of not having it - it's a matter of me being cheap) .. but he'll make me think logically and realize that $40 or $60 or $80 on something that's really flattering that I can wear a lot isn't a bad thing to do. 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sat, 07-20-2013 - 10:54am

<<And when I go shopping with him, I end up bringing a lot more things home.>>

 

Again, that was ME that said that. Not BORD.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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