Thursday Trio

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Thu, 11-07-2013 - 11:07am

1. What what you doing at age 21?

2. What is your favorite appetizer?

3. What is on your wish list for the holidays (yes, something material)?

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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 11:35am
"I think that that the % of those that feel like dancing before their mastectomy is very limited. It was no less inspiring watching my DD even though she was not dancing." ------ Well said, Empty. I was not dancing, because I was on a gurney with strict instructions to stay put. But my surgeon came to see me right before I was wheeled into the OR and we joked around a little. Also, good for her for dancing. It is good to take control and do these things on your own terms. However, for the patient it is simply life. It is not tragic, just another day. Sometimes you can, as the patient, feel quite a bit of pressure to relieve others of their feelings that the whole thing is horrible and tragic. I guess that is one reason that video went viral.
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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 11:38am
"That's great, those somber faces and scars and related articles" ----- I get that you do not want to know what the reality is. But when you amputate a woman's breasts, she ends up with scars. For some of us that is the new normal and it is extremely important for women to come to see those scars as beautiful. That it is upsetting to you does not make it any less empowering for actual cancer patients. But it is a little sad that you can't appreciate that at all.
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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 11:38am
Bord, Vinnie is considered a total rock star by women who have made use of his services.
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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 1:32pm
Jams, what I am trying to get you to see is that it is not "supportive" or kind to tell a cancer patient that you support her, but you don' want to know anything about the reality of what she has been through or is going through. In fact, you expect her to put on a happy face and some pink ribbons so that YOU can continue felling all warm and fuzzy about how supportive you are being. This may not be what you mean, but I assure you that it is how you come across.
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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 7:42pm

I think that that the % of those that feel like dancing before their mastectomy is very limited

Perhaps, Or they're not just not taping it.  But the bigger picture to me wasn't even the dancing before the surgery, it was attitude.  She's a doctor and if her courage and attitude has inspired one person its inspired many and you can't dispute that. 

 


 


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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 7:55pm

rollmops2009 wrote:
Jams, what I am trying to get you to see is that it is not "supportive" or kind to tell a cancer patient that you support her, but you don' want to know anything about the reality of what she has been through or is going through. In fact, you expect her to put on a happy face and some pink ribbons so that YOU can continue felling all warm and fuzzy about how supportive you are being. This may not be what you mean, but I assure you that it is how you come across.

What a shame mops, You couldn't be more wrong in what you think I don't understand.  I won't hold my breath waiting for your apology. 

 


 


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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 8:03pm

3. What is on your wish list for the holidays (yes, something material)? a new tennis racket

No surprise, Lol.

 


 


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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 8:11pm

Wait, what? You think Rolls owes you an apology James? Other way around. Not only had she had to deal with cancer and the treatments for cancer, she has had to put up with you telling her she's doing it all wrong, and she's remain gracious to boot. And now she owes you an apology? For WHAT?

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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 8:12pm
Your defense at nonsense again. I never said such a thing.

 

 

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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 8:18pm

Dear Morty, Apologies to you for hijacking this thread, I should have never mentioned the video.