Thursday Trio

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Thu, 11-07-2013 - 11:07am

1. What what you doing at age 21?

2. What is your favorite appetizer?

3. What is on your wish list for the holidays (yes, something material)?

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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 1:32pm
Jams, what I am trying to get you to see is that it is not "supportive" or kind to tell a cancer patient that you support her, but you don' want to know anything about the reality of what she has been through or is going through. In fact, you expect her to put on a happy face and some pink ribbons so that YOU can continue felling all warm and fuzzy about how supportive you are being. This may not be what you mean, but I assure you that it is how you come across.
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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 11:38am
Bord, Vinnie is considered a total rock star by women who have made use of his services.
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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 11:38am
"That's great, those somber faces and scars and related articles" ----- I get that you do not want to know what the reality is. But when you amputate a woman's breasts, she ends up with scars. For some of us that is the new normal and it is extremely important for women to come to see those scars as beautiful. That it is upsetting to you does not make it any less empowering for actual cancer patients. But it is a little sad that you can't appreciate that at all.
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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 11:35am
"I think that that the % of those that feel like dancing before their mastectomy is very limited. It was no less inspiring watching my DD even though she was not dancing." ------ Well said, Empty. I was not dancing, because I was on a gurney with strict instructions to stay put. But my surgeon came to see me right before I was wheeled into the OR and we joked around a little. Also, good for her for dancing. It is good to take control and do these things on your own terms. However, for the patient it is simply life. It is not tragic, just another day. Sometimes you can, as the patient, feel quite a bit of pressure to relieve others of their feelings that the whole thing is horrible and tragic. I guess that is one reason that video went viral.
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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 9:33am

Here is another response to breast cancer that some women seem to find empowering: http://c.washingtontimes.com/neighborhood/metro-news/2013/oct/25/tattoo-artist-vinnie-myers-making-breast-cancer-su/

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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 9:07am

jamblessedthree wrote:
That's great, those somber faces and scars and related articles about how less effective pink causes are. I agree we should donate more at the local level. Are you doing that? I do (too). I am drawn more to the upbeat, positive faces to adversity is all.

My largest donations go towards reseach which is not at the local level. 

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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 8:54am
That's great, those somber faces and scars and related articles about how less effective pink causes are. I agree we should donate more at the local level. Are you doing that? I do (too). I am drawn more to the upbeat, positive faces to adversity is all.

 


 


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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 8:39am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Unrelated but I thought of you the other day mops, There was a video that went viral about a woman about to undergo a double mastectomy and she was dancing with her nurses and doctors before the surgery. It was an uplifting and inspiring video, not debate worthy but it did make me think of the links and opposite slants on this board. </p>

I do not think this is at all counter to what many have been posting on the subject, the general concensus is that it is up to the individual, especially those that have been on the journey in how they feel and deal with the issue.  This was a choice made by someone in the journey and I do not think that anyone  here would judge her for making that choice.

But what some have been debating is that all in the journey are the same.  They all should love "pink",  they all should use the word survivor etc.  They should not be individuals with their own thoughts and feelings on the issue.  I think that that the % of those that feel like dancing before their mastectomy is very limited.  It was no less inspiring watching my DD even though she was not dancing. 

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Sat, 11-09-2013 - 8:13am
Jams, check it out: http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/she-the-people/wp/2013/11/08/who-feels-better-after-breast-cancer-awareness-month/
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Fri, 11-08-2013 - 8:16pm
Yes, despite old arguments otherwise Uggs do run big. My girls size 7 boots still fit them and they've technically grown two shoe sizes larger since then, Lol.