Time to move on

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Time to move on
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Sun, 04-27-2014 - 1:47pm

1. How many times have you moved?

2. Will this week be busy for you?

3. Do you have Mother's day plans yet?

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 5:20pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><em><span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px">You've never lived alone?</span></em></p><p><em><strong><span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px">Nope.</span></strong></em></p><p><strong><span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px">Proudly written, Where's the like button!  </span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px">I had my own place for a short period of time before marrying DH, We then lived in a couple different apartment homes before buying too.  <br /></span></strong></p>

Why would anyone be proud of that?  I would be extremely disappointed in my daughters if they never lived on their own before getting married--and living with said future husband would not count.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 5:28pm

litlmiss_cantbewrong wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&gt;You've never lived alone?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&gt;Nope.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&gt;Proudly written, Where's the like button!  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&gt;I had my own place for a short period of time before marrying DH, We then lived in a couple different apartment homes before buying too.  &lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Why would anyone be proud of that?  I would be extremely disappointed in my daughters if they never lived on their own before getting married--and living with said future husband would not count.</p>

Oh dang, I'm sure your disappointment just resonates wiht young women that actually do wait until they get married to move out, Smh. 

 

 

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 5:36pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">litlmiss_cantbewrong</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;jamblessedthree&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&amp;gt;You've never lived alone?&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&amp;gt;Nope.&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&amp;gt;Proudly written, Where's the like button!  &amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&amp;gt;I had my own place for a short period of time before marrying DH, We then lived in a couple different apartment homes before buying too.  &amp;lt;br /&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Why would anyone be proud of that?  I would be extremely disappointed in my daughters if they never lived on their own before getting married--and living with said future husband would not count.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Oh dang, I'm sure your disappointment just resonates wiht young women that actually do wait until they get married to move out, Smh.  </p>

I'm not talking to any young women about their future plans whether to move out of their parent's home and learn to actually support themselves without a dh or boyfriend, so my advice isn't resonating with anyone.  It is sad that an adult woman cannot see the value in it thought.  You must not see the value in that, since you are so proud that Molly did not have that experience.  Is that what you will be recommending to your daughters?

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 5:55pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;grapthars_hammer&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;bordwithyou&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;The beatification of St Gianna as an example for women everywhere is a sign of the misogyny of the Catholic Church to me.  The fact that she chose not to have a hysterectomy that might have prolonged her life is a courageous choice, and one I might or might not have made for myself.  It is not one that I would choose to have held up as the ideal for all women.  I would think no less of a woman who decided to abort to preserve her own life than I do of the woman who chose not to and left behind three motherless children.&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;I think it's obscene for  anyone to hold up as an example of appropriate motherhood, an example of a woman who would willingly orphan her children when she had another choice.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;Particularly since there are hundreds of women who are awaiting beatification.  To choose this one and to leave the others uncanonized is a real message about the worth of women within this theological system.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Saints don't rise to that level following societal norms or stanards, On their holy days they are recognized for their martrydome.  And there are more women than you know that have risen to sainthood, It's pretty fascinating actually. </p><p>ETA You imply sainthood as some competition, St Gianna didn't<em> compete</em> for that elevation. </p>
. Since I've spent the last thirty years studying, writing, translating, and teaching hagiography, I think I'm fairly well qualified to speak on the phenomenon of how saints happen to be recignized by the church.  And there is a definite political and cultural component to understanding why certain potential saints are recognized and why some are ignored.  The fact is, Gianna was recognized by John Paul II to send a particular set of messages.  And those messages are, in my opinion, misogynist.

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 6:44pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Oh dang, I'm sure your disappointment just resonates wiht young women that actually do wait until they get married to move out, Smh.  </p>

Fortunately, there just aren't that many of those these days and the ones there are, are predominantly patriarchal Christian homeschooled girls who don't know any better.

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 6:54pm

Am I going to recommend what to my daughters.. That they move out cantbewrong? What exactly does that look like? My kids know that this house is always theirs too, That whatever their endeavors I/we will support. I have a daughter that is interested in a college out east. I'd be just as thrilled if she stayed closer to home but she would have my blessing if she chose to move there. I can't imagine being in control of that, Of being the influence on when they move out, etc. Are you? I mean besides wanting them to move out before they get married b/c you've said you would be "disappointed" otherwise, Eek... 

 

 

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 6:58pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
Am I going to recommend what to my daughters.. That they move out cantbewrong? What exactly does that look like? My kids know that this house is always theirs too, That whatever their endeavors I/we will support. I have a daughter that is interested in a college out east. I'd be just as thrilled if she stayed closer to home but she would have my blessing. I can't imagine being in control of their interests. Are you? I mean besides wanting them to move out b/c you've said you would be disappointed otherwise, Eek.

Why would you ask me what I am recommending and what it "looks like" when it clearly says in my post.  I did not say I wanted them to move out.  In fact I did not say any of the things you talk about in your post.  I was not discussing whether the house is "always theirs" or that I will or won't support what they do or whether I would be thrilled or not whether they go to college near our home or in another state.  I did not say I controlled their interests--which actually I do at this point in their life.  In the future I will not "control their interests" if you mean control all their decisions--nope I wasn't discussing that either.  

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 7:01pm

You've never lived alone?

Nope.

Proudly written, Where's the like button! 

I had my own place for a short period of time before marrying DH, We then lived in a couple different apartment homes before buying too.  


Oh,  I am sure there will be an attack attached to this soon. Lol.

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 7:02pm

Why would anyone be proud of that?  I would be extremely disappointed in my daughters if they never lived on their own before getting married--and living with said future husband would not count.

Why? 

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Mon, 04-28-2014 - 7:05pm

I'm not talking to any young women about their future plans whether to move out of their parent's home and learn to actually support themselves without a dh or boyfriend, so my advice isn't resonating with anyone.  It is sad that an adult woman cannot see the value in it thought.  You must not see the value in that, since you are so proud that Molly did not have that experience.  Is that what you will be recommending to your daughters?

Hmm.....there are many women, and men for that, that went straight from their childhood home to living with someone else. Not sure why you would think I didnt learn to support myself. You do realize that some women make enough money in their marriage that if they did have to live by themselves, divorce, death, they could support themselves, right? SMH

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