Too connected

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Too connected
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Sat, 07-30-2011 - 9:19am

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Sat, 07-30-2011 - 1:01pm

I can't imagine being FB friends with the kid. That seems very TMI. However, we do use the chat function in Skype a fair bit. I probably talk to her that way 1-2 times a week on average. With her dad she usually communicates via text messages (but or a reason, like yesterday when an ATM in Turkey ate her card), and we both call her once in a while, like maybe once a month.

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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 8:49am

i lost interest in that link at, helicopter parenting..one sibling went away to college and even further away to grad school, the rest of us were just commuters at local colleges who came home at the end of the day.

 

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Registered: 11-11-2010
Mon, 08-01-2011 - 2:54pm

I never visited my kids at college until their grads but the schools they went to were less than an hour drive so I'd wait till they took the occasional weekend to come visit me.

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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 4:34pm

Do you mean that if grandma came to his apartment he would leave the apartment "as is"?

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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 4:46pm
I should clarify.. when he set up his first apartment he was nervous about his poster for The Shining' with Jack Nicholson's scary face and his change collector being a giant Smirnoff bottle .. my comment was that if it's not obvious bad taste (he knows his grandma), then grandma needs to know that his decorating style won't be much like hers. He generally did tidying whenever people come over and he's not a messy guy anyway but he just worried about his non-gramma-style decor.
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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 5:27pm

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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 6:55pm
I think it's inappropriate for adults to iniatiate a fb friendship with theyunger generation because of the power differential.
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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 1:17am

Ok, I wasn't quite sure what you meant. Gotta say though that I still reorganize the house prior to a visit by my mother and try to make it look acceptable to her.

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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 9:52am
Same here .. I don't have a mess to greet her or anything that would cause her discomfort. I was going to say it's about respect but my son has respect as well - I think he needed to know where to draw his own lines where his grandma was concerned when he started out on his own.
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Registered: 11-11-2010
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 10:02am
I agree re friends and peers of my kids. With my 2 there's no issue being FB friends, with my dh's 2 sons it's a different story, they include info that neither of us want to know and his youngest son (age 21) dropped dad off his friends list saying he needed to spare him .. I can understand that. Dh was hurt at first but he got over it. His son loves him the same as he always has but when you look at it as when kids hang out with their friends IRL, on FB those boundaries aren't there (unless the privacy settings are set with that in mind).

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