Too Far? [Spin-off]

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Too Far? [Spin-off]
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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:30am

So we discussed doing things with kids, being present etc., and opinions varied a fair deal.

The other day I was chatting with a friend who still has teens at home. She and her husband always wanted to go to Napa and taste wine,  stay in romantic inns etc. Their anniversary is later this month, so they booked a long, wine-tasting weekend in Napa and got dad's sister to come stay with the kids, which is great.

It happens that their youngest, a girl, turns 14 that weekend. Would you go on a trip, even if it WAS a special occasion, and miss your child's birthday?

I admit I wouldn't, but maybe I am a sap?

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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:39am

I wouldn't either.  I was even kind of annoyed that my parents missed DD's b-day last year because they were visiting my sister.  (She ended up having three celebrations last year!)  

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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:41am

Unless it was a big one (first one, 16th) I don't see the problem with celebrating before it they can't go any other time.

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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:43am

I wouldn't either.  I was even kind of annoyed that my parents missed DD's b-day last year because they were visiting my sister.  (She ended up having three celebrations last year!)  

Maybe because you see them all the time but my kids and my nephews rarely share(d) their birthdays with my parents. 

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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:48am
"Unless it was a big one (first one, 16th) I don't see the problem with celebrating before it they can't go any other time." ------------ Seriously? Why couldn't the parents schedule the trip at a different time?
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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:50am

"Unless it was a big one (first one, 16th) I don't see the problem with celebrating before it they can't go any other time." ------------ Seriously? Why couldn't the parents schedule the trip at a different time?

There could be work constraits, school restraints, family restraints, financial restraints. I am sure there could be a ton of reasons why only some weeks could work and they might fall on a family members birthday. Heck, if the Duggar family tried to take a vacation alone I am sure SOMEONE's birthday might come up that week. lol.

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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:52am
"and they might fall on a family members birthday." ----------- This is not "a family member." It is their kid who still lives at home.
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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:55am

rollmops2009 wrote:
"and they might fall on a family members birthday." ----------- This is not "a family member." It is their kid who still lives at home.

I'm even a little bit disappointed if my parents aren't around on *my* birthday.  Although, we often take around that time to go on vacation and then I'm not around.

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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:55am

"and they might fall on a family members birthday." ----------- This is not "a family member." It is their kid who still lives at home.

I WAS including a kid as a "family member" lol.

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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:57am
"I WAS including a kid as a "family member" lol." --------- Yes, I get that. What I mean is that this not any old family member, nor is it an adult. It is a kid and it is the kid's birthday.
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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 10:57am
rollmops2009 wrote:
"and they might fall on a family members birthday." ----------- This is not "a family member." It is their kid who still lives at home.

I'm even a little bit disappointed if my parents aren't around on *my* birthday.  Although, we often take around that time to go on vacation and then I'm not around.

What do you do with your parents on that actual day that you could not do a day or two before? IME, for all our birthdays, we all do normal everyday things during the day and either go out to dinner that night or a night around it (whatever is more convenient) and have a birthday cake for the kids. 

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