Tuesday Tidings

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Tuesday Tidings
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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 9:41am

1. What is your favorite ornament on your Christmas Tree?

2. Do you decorate at work (or you s.o. if you don't work)?

3. Are you done shopping?

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:03pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;savcal2011&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;santaababy1967&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;amp;gt;the kids were totally fine with not putting up another tree,&amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p style="text-align:left"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:x-small"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span&amp;amp;gt;Kids don't want to disappoint their parents. They obviously sensed you did not want to do it.&amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;I think PKA knows her kids better than you do.   I know her kids ... I can see that it wouldn't be a huge deal to them. &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Then that's very sad.  But I agree, kids learn not to speak up in response to a childhood of privation.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Are you speaking from experience or just making up things about my children's lives?</p>

Hon, if you could stop posturing for one second, maybe you can tell me where I mentioned your kids?

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:04pm

<<So where did they put up these trees?>>

Grandparents, where you know....we will spending Christmas.

You live at your parents house now? I'm sorry, didn't know you lost your home. Cry

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:04pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p>and where do you put their presents as well as everyone else's?</p>

The same place we have put them every year since they were born, under the trees they have already helped decorated this year.  Tradition, you know.   Wink

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:05pm

We won't be having Christmas at my house either. Never thought of bringing my kids over to decorate someone else's tree because we will be having it there. Bawahhhaaa..

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:06pm

The same place we have put them every year since they were born, under the trees they have already helped decorated this year.  Tradition, you know.   Wink

So every year you bring all their gifts over to your parents house because you have Christmas dinner with them? You and your dh NEVER made your OWN traditions and had your OWN family Christmas at home? 

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:06pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">santaababy1967</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;It should be a huge deal for parents to make memories. &amp;gt;&amp;gt; - Agreed. Nothing in PKA's post indicates she doesn't also agree.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;So you wouldn't have a tree while your kids lived in your home? Would you give up those memories?&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;You have a tree, correct? &amp;gt;&amp;gt; Yes, I have a tree.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;And you would give up that memory with your children too?&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;Don't you think you would miss the memories you have had with your kids with your tree and decorating with ornaments?&amp;gt;&amp;gt; - If I never had that experience/memory? Yes, I would miss it.  If I have that 10-12 times instead of 18-20?  Not even a blip on my radar.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;So your memories are exactly the SAME every.single.year? &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>There have been years we haven't had a tree in our home.  Our memories aren't exactly the same, but close enough that it's not a big deal.  And we can use that time to make completely new, different, possibly more exciting and enduring memories!</p>

That's all that's been said ~ it's a very different Christmas without a tree and all of the trimmings.  I'd be interested to hear what "possibly more exciting and enduring memories" you think were created those years, but from your children of course.  Not saying ask them.  But what's being suggested on this board is from the parents' fervent hopes and fears IMO.

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:07pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Well, now you are just making up stuff.  Why would you make up such a lie about my kids?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">So please explain then.</span></strong></p>

These comments that you said (and I quoted) are not true  <<Kids don't want to disappoint their parents. They obviously sensed you did not want to do it.<>

Now can you answer, why you made up such comments?


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:08pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Did you miss that fact that we have already done two trees or are you skipping over all facts and just going straight to lies today?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">WHERE were these trees if NOT in your home?</span></strong></p>

So that would be a yes, you are skipping over the facts today.  Thanks.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:08pm

We have had a tree every single year and will this year.  Once my kids got past the age of about nine or ten, they couldn't care less.  Other than helping me get the tree in the stand every year, nobody is interested in decorating it with me.   I usually do all the house decorating all by myself.   I haven't done it this year yet except for the outside, and no one has asked why.

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:10pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;santaababy1967&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;I think you're right.  It's so sad.  I can't even imagine....&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p style="text-align:left"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:small"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:x-small"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span&amp;gt;Sounds more like laziness on the parents part. I did not look forward to decorating this year as it IS a big job but I could not imagine NOT doing it, for even just for the kids. I want them to have the memories of Christmas and if they NEVER had a tree, that would be one thing but to have it for some years and then not others and expect them to be satisfied putting up a tree elsewhere (it was never said where they put these up), I think that is just wrong. &amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:9pt; font-family:Arial, sans-serif"&gt;Well you have quickly changed your tune, earlier you said you could understand the dog chasing cat situation, now you have turned it into Dickens’ like tragedy in my life.  I often wonder, do you ever not make things up?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:9pt; font-family:Arial, sans-serif"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I was going to ask the very same thing of you.</p>

What am I making up?  

PumpkinAngel

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