Tuesday Tidings

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Tuesday Tidings
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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 9:41am

1. What is your favorite ornament on your Christmas Tree?

2. Do you decorate at work (or you s.o. if you don't work)?

3. Are you done shopping?

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:19pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">santaababy1967</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Well, now you are just making up stuff.  Why would you make up such a lie about my kids?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;So please explain then.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>These comments that you said (and I quoted) are not true  &lt;&lt;<span style="background-color:#f6f6f6">Kids don't want to disappoint their parents. They obviously sensed you did not want to do it.&lt;&gt;</span></p><p><span style="background-color:#f6f6f6">Now can you answer, why you made up such comments?</span></p><p><span style="background-color:#f6f6f6"><br /></span></p>

That's 100% true.  Or are you saying you know of kids who want to disappoint their parents?  Are you speaking of your kids?

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:20pm

Nah, I used to have this romantic idea of sitting around decorating the tree with Christmas music in the background and cookies fresh out of the oven, and the kids ooo-ing and ahh-ing over all the memories and the ornaments and all....I forced them to help decorate when they were little, but they were done after about a half hour and I'd have to go drag them away from someplace so I could get the annual picture of one of them placing the angel on the top of the tree.  After awhile, I just let it go.  Decorating the tree just isn't their thing.

I guess if you made it like that throughout the years, then I can see why they would not be interested. 

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:20pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Very very strange.  How sad for any children who celebrate to miss out on the fun of Christmas morning.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I can easily see doing gifts at others houses too, as my kids do too but how would you not want to make memories with just your small family at home? THAT I do not understand. </span></strong></p>

People do different things.  We have friends whose tradition it is to go skiing over Christmas.  They decorate the outside of the house, but don't bother with a tree.  They take their stockings with them and open them at the hotel/resort.  We have other friends who go to the grandparents in Florida every year.  The kids (15,12, 8) now fly down there unaccompanied as soon as school is out and stay two weeks; the parents only go down for four or five days right around Christmas. I think they do have a tree in their basement, which is where the Mom operates her in-home daycare.

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:20pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumpkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;santaababy1967&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;amp;gt;I think you're right.  It's so sad.  I can't even imagine....&amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p style="text-align:left"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:small"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:x-small"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span&amp;amp;gt;Sounds more like laziness on the parents part. I did not look forward to decorating this year as it IS a big job but I could not imagine NOT doing it, for even just for the kids. I want them to have the memories of Christmas and if they NEVER had a tree, that would be one thing but to have it for some years and then not others and expect them to be satisfied putting up a tree elsewhere (it was never said where they put these up), I think that is just wrong. &amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:9pt; font-family:Arial, sans-serif"&amp;gt;Well you have quickly changed your tune, earlier you said you could understand the dog chasing cat situation, now you have turned it into Dickens’ like tragedy in my life.  I often wonder, do you ever not make things up?&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:9pt; font-family:Arial, sans-serif"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;br /&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I was going to ask the very same thing of you.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>What am I making up?  </p>

Everything.

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:21pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p>We won't be having Christmas at my house either. Never thought of bringing my kids over to decorate someone else's tree because we will be having it there. Bawahhhaaa..</p>

Its a family tradition, we decorate trees together as a family, including grandparents.  Are you (or your kids) unfamilar with spending the holidays on a regular basis with grandparents?   We do a lot of things together, do you find that odd or something?

 

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:21pm
santaababy1967 wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>&lt;&lt;</strong><strong>So where did they put up these trees?&gt;&gt;</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Grandparents, where you know....we will spending Christmas.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>You live at your parents house now? I'm sorry, didn't know you lost your home. <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cry.gif" alt="Cry" title="Cry" border="0" /></strong></p>

Um, no but nothing I said would indicate that I live there, are you that unfamiliar with spending time with family?

And again, I DID say that we have Christmas dinner at someone else's home every year. I don't live there, hence, I don't decorate THEIR tree or consider that OUR tree.

Why would you make up a lie about me having lost my home?  

Where did I lie? I didn't know that was your new home. Is it not?

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:23pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; font-size:13px; text-align:left"><div><div><div><p>The same place we have put them every year since they were born, under the trees they have already helped decorated this year.  Tradition, you know.   <img src="http://www.ivillage.com/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif" alt="Wink" title="Wink" border="0" /></p><div><strong>So every year you bring all their gifts over to your parents house because you have Christmas dinner with them? You and your dh NEVER made your OWN traditions and had your OWN family Christmas at home? </strong></div></div></div></div></div>

You are wrong again, it's not because we have Christmas dinner with them... we spend Christmas with them, from morning until night. The entire extended family gathers on Christmas monring and spends the day together.  We have our own traditions but my parents are family.

Why are you shouting?

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:23pm

People do different things.  We have friends whose tradition it is to go skiing over Christmas.  They decorate the outside of the house, but don't bother with a tree.  They take their stockings with them and open them at the hotel/resort.  We have other friends who go to the grandparents in Florida every year.  The kids (15,12, 8) now fly down there unaccompanied as soon as school is out and stay two weeks; the parents only go down for four or five days right around Christmas. I think they do have a tree in their basement, which is where the Mom operates her in-home daycare.

So? That is not what PKA said. They don't go away, they go over to the grandparents home, where they decorate the tree they spend Christmas with. Again, I didn't know I was supposed to decorate and consider the tree I spend Christmas day with OUR tree.

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:24pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumpkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;thardy2001&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;amp;gt;savcal2011&amp;amp;lt;/em&amp;amp;gt; wrote:&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;amp;amp;gt;santaababy1967&amp;amp;amp;lt;/em&amp;amp;amp;gt; wrote:&amp;amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;the kids were totally fine with not putting up another tree,&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;p style="text-align:left"&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:x-small"&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;span&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;Kids don't want to disappoint their parents. They obviously sensed you did not want to do it.&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;gt;I think PKA knows her kids better than you do.   I know her kids ... I can see that it wouldn't be a huge deal to them. &amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;Then that's very sad.  But I agree, kids learn not to speak up in response to a childhood of privation.&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Are you speaking from experience or just making up things about my children's lives?&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Hon, if you could stop posturing for one second, maybe you can tell me where I mentioned your kids?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Why would you call me Hon?  Anyway...you jumped into the conversation that was about my kids.  I would suggest reading the post you quoted for further details.</p><p> </p>

Oh, so your sons have led a childhood of privation?  Even I didn't suggest that.  Wow.

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:25pm

bordwithyou wrote:
<p>We have had a tree every single year and will this year.  Once my kids got past the age of about nine or ten, they couldn't care less.  Other than helping me get the tree in the stand every year, nobody is interested in decorating it with me.   I usually do all the house decorating all by myself.   I haven't done it this year yet except for the outside, and no one has asked why.</p>

We have talked about putting our tree up, we are still trying to decide if we want to deal with the tree in the mix of the cat and visting dog merry go round that occurs on a nightly basis!  We all agree though that none of the breakable ornaments will go up on the tree if we do put one up.  

PumpkinAngel

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