Tuesday Tidings

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 9:41am

1. What is your favorite ornament on your Christmas Tree?

2. Do you decorate at work (or you s.o. if you don't work)?

3. Are you done shopping?

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:34pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">the kids were totally fine with not putting up another tree,</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Kids don't want to disappoint their parents. They obviously sensed you did not want to do it.</span></span></strong></p>

I think PKA knows her kids better than you do.   I know her kids ... I can see that it wouldn't be a huge deal to them.

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:35pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">the kids were totally fine with not putting up another tree,</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Kids don't want to disappoint their parents. They obviously sensed you did not want to do it.</span></span></strong></p>

I think you're right.  It's so sad.  I can't even imagine....

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:36pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">santaababy1967</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;the kids were totally fine with not putting up another tree,&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="text-align:left"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:x-small"&gt;&lt;span&gt;Kids don't want to disappoint their parents. They obviously sensed you did not want to do it.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I think PKA knows her kids better than you do.   I know her kids ... I can see that it wouldn't be a huge deal to them. </p>

Then that's very sad.  But I agree, kids learn not to speak up in response to a childhood of privation.

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:38pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p>I feel that Christmas is for everyone and a tree doesn't represent Christmas to me, the navity scene and the advent candles represent Christmas to me.   I know a number of people who don't put up trees with and without kids and a number of people who put up multiple trees, with and without kids.   Why would it feel odd?</p><p><strong>I guess you learn something new everyday. A christmas tree (at least IME) is an important part of Christmas and I don't know many people who don't put up one and if they don't, they don't have kids. My kids would feel sad not having the tree up every year. It is just something part of OUR Christmas as well as everyone that I know with kids. </strong></p>

I know quite a few peeps who don't put up a tree - some of them are some very religious/faithful people that are more concerned about the spriit and Christianity of the season than they are the tree. Some are very unreligious folks that, since they aren't Christian, see the season as one of family and togetherness and well-wishes. 

And I know lots of people who put up multiple trees ... egads! I can barely manage one these days! lol

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:40pm

I think PKA knows her kids better than you do.   I know her kids ... I can see that it wouldn't be a huge deal to them.

It should be a huge deal for parents to make memories. You have a tree, correct? Don't you think you would miss the memories you have had with your kids with your tree and decorating with ornaments? 

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:40pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;santaababy1967&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;the kids were totally fine with not putting up another tree,&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p style="text-align:left"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:x-small"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span&amp;gt;Kids don't want to disappoint their parents. They obviously sensed you did not want to do it.&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I think PKA knows her kids better than you do.   I know her kids ... I can see that it wouldn't be a huge deal to them. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Then that's very sad.  But I agree, kids learn not to speak up in response to a childhood of privation.</p>

*snort*  PKA's kids are deprived of very little. 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:42pm

I think you're right.  It's so sad.  I can't even imagine....

Sounds more like laziness on the parents part. I did not look forward to decorating this year as it IS a big job but I could not imagine NOT doing it, for even just for the kids. I want them to have the memories of Christmas and if they NEVER had a tree, that would be one thing but to have it for some years and then not others and expect them to be satisfied putting up a tree elsewhere (it was never said where they put these up), I think that is just wrong. 

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:44pm

And I know lots of people who put up multiple trees

I would LOVE to do that if my house was big enough. I would do the big one I have now with all the different ornaments and then do a tall skinny one, color coordinated. I couldn't imagine not having at least some type of tree. One year we could only have a small (charlie brown but not as bad lol) tree on top of our stereo because of the size of our apt. 

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:46pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I think PKA knows her kids better than you do.   I know her kids ... I can see that it wouldn't be a huge deal to them.</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>It should be a huge deal for parents to make memories. You have a tree, correct? Don't you think you would miss the memories you have had with your kids with your tree and decorating with ornaments? </span></span></strong></p>

<<It should be a huge deal for parents to make memories. >> - Agreed. Nothing in PKA's post indicates she doesn't also agree.

<<You have a tree, correct? >> Yes, I have a tree.

<<Don't you think you would miss the memories you have had with your kids with your tree and decorating with ornaments?>> - If I never had that experience/memory? Yes, I would miss it.  If I have that 10-12 times instead of 18-20?  Not even a blip on my radar.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:47pm

santaababy1967 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I think you're right.  It's so sad.  I can't even imagine....</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><span style="font-size:small"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Sounds more like laziness on the parents part. I did not look forward to decorating this year as it IS a big job but I could not imagine NOT doing it, for even just for the kids. I want them to have the memories of Christmas and if they NEVER had a tree, that would be one thing but to have it for some years and then not others and expect them to be satisfied putting up a tree elsewhere (it was never said where they put these up), I think that is just wrong. </span></span></strong></span></p>

Oh, some of the years I've not had a tree it was out of what could be considered laziness.  But then, I often choose to allocate my time to the important things first ... and sometimes a tree just isn't as important as other things. 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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