Two more weeks

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 5:59am

Do you decorate outside?

Are you hosting or going somewhere this year?

Big group or small one?

How is shopping going?

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Registered: 12-11-2013
Wed, 12-11-2013 - 4:11pm

I don't think you understand that generous spirit of giving.

Oh sure I do. I love when my kids take their own change and put it in the bucket. They would rather give it away then use it for themselves. THAT is the spirit of giving. There is NO other motive behind it, like there is with adults giving. 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 12-11-2013 - 4:09pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Maybe people are simply more miserly where you live. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Nah, I don't think so. They just do it smarter.</span></strong></p><p>http://philanthropy.com/article/Sharing-the-Wealth-How-the/133605/</p><p><strong>I am 17, Bord's is 26. Shrug</strong></p>

Does it take population into account?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 4:05pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">No, they are not my friends. Only Melissa is. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Exactly. So if Jams is friends with someone Bord is friends with, she would be able to go through them. If she has NO mutual friends AT ALL, she could not see anything if her page is closed.</span></strong></p>

They have mutual friends or at least did at some point, which was mentioned earlier in the thread.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 4:03pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>No bord, you're wrong.  What's private is kept private, My child's name, the donation amount, my email address, the actual website you found...  But it takes two to debate and you've taken on the debate, even going as far as claiming things that aren't true.  Where do you draw the line?  I mean, at what point is it ok to call others out on making things up but not acknowledge your own untruths?   </p><p>By the way, Do you give to the salvation army kettle?  I do.  What about the homeless person on the street corner?</p>

That's not true, they are public webpages, the only thing private is what you shared that was intrusted to you to remain private.  Where do you draw the line, is there even a line?

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 4:03pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
Oh I know you were being snarky. That is why I gave you factual evidence <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" border="0" /></span></strong></span></p>

So here is some factual evidence that people put more than loose change and dollar bills into kettles.

http://blog.salvationarmyusa.org/2011/12/02/bell-ringers-find-unique-donations/

http://www.wnem.com/story/24176991/gold-coin-found-in-salvation-army-red-kettle

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2013-12-09/news/ct-gold-coin-donation-naperville-tl-1212-20131209_1_gold-coin-krugerrand-naperville-salvation-army

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 12-11-2013 - 4:02pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; font-size:13px; text-align:left"><div><div><div><p>Lots of reasons, one being that I don't like getting on mailing lists; another being that it's a biblical injunction/guideline; another being that I prefer that my larger gifts remain under the radar so as not to embarrass the recipients.  And by that I mean that if I fund a fellowship or scholarship and a student wins it, I don't want that person to feel indebted to me personally.</p><div><strong>I can think of few reasons too but I won't go there.</strong></div></div></div></div></div>

I don't think you understand that generous spirit of giving.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 4:01pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Lots of people do that, it's not a big deal...well unless those intrusted with that private information share that information.  Makes one thing twice about donating to some causes if one wishes to remain annonymous.</span></p><p><strong>Please explain why someone would do that since you said you have done it before.</strong></p>

For a variety of reasons.  Some of them include; not wanting someone to feel indebited to me because I made a donation in honor of them, focus on the cause not the giver, religous reasons, avoidance of other requests.  

I think the real question is why someone decided not to honor that private information that was intrusted to them.  

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 3:57pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yes.  I've done it before with the kids when our church youth group signed up for shifts, and every time there are ten, twenty, and fifty dollar bills slipped in; although as you say, it is mostly change and singles.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Wow, some rich area you must live in. And to think in my measly little poor area (of an average annual salary of $100,000), I have only seen people drop in coins (and maybe a single or 2), NOT 10, 20 and $50 lololol.</span></strong></p>

Why would you only go by what you have seen being put into the kettle?

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 3:54pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>urrrkeeyday</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Weren't we talking about the few dollars that I donated to JDRF?  That's all that's relevant here.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;You DO know that "few" means a small number. You consider THAT a small number what you donated? &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Absolutely.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Wow, I am sure many others would not think so. A "few" dollars when donating would be maybe $3, not what you donated. </strong></p>

Well, since it's my money and my donations, what you and your army consider to be a few dollars is irrrelevant.

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 3:52pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">They wouldn't necessarily have to see YOUR page or the page created for your kid.   I've never seen Kristina's or Katie's page ... but yet I know their names and some basic info because Melissa has mentioned them, tagged them, and they have responded to Melissa's statuses, etc. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">And? Bord is not friends with Jam's on fb. YOU are friends with this girl Melissa, WHO you see her posts, pictures, tags, etc. Bord would have to go through someone who WAS friends with Jams (it is called researching, you know) and friends with her to find out this type of info.</span></strong></p>

if Bord is friend with Samantha (made up person) and Jams is friends with Samantha - and Jams and/or her family is mentioned on Samantha's page (in a comment, tagged, etc - by either Jams or Samantha) Bord can possibly see it. She wouldn't need to "go through" Samantha - it would show up on Bord's newsfeed!

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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