Two more weeks

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Two more weeks
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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 5:59am

Do you decorate outside?

Are you hosting or going somewhere this year?

Big group or small one?

How is shopping going?

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:41pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">It is true that I will save something like $4.50 on my taxes by having made that donation.  However, since it cost me seven times that to make the donation, I am not exactly coming out ahead here.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Sorry but I don't believe that someone would make a donation, to a total stranger's child, to, obviously, a charity they are not familiar with, at the end of the year NOT for their own benefit. </span></strong></p>

I didn't make a donation to a total stranger's child, I made a donation to a research foundation.   And the fact that you don't understand altruism doesn't surprise me a bit, Turkey.  Not one single solitary bit.

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:43pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>There you go with reason and common sense again, turk.  I guess donors should have all the power and control about their donations, heavens the donee find out...  Perhaps she should have listed her name as Mickey Mouse, Nobody would know then o_0</p>

Good idea.  I'll do that next time.

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:44pm

bordwithyou wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">turrrkeeyday</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;I looked you up to find out where you live, Jambles.  Know why I did that?  Because I was peeved because YOU had made a post mentioning where I live, despite my many pleas over the years to people not to post identifying information.  So I wanted to retaliate by posting where YOU live.  That was juvenile of me, I admit.  But I looked YOU up to find where YOU live.  Not your child.  The fact that the first link I got was to your donation page was not my fault.  Then I decided, "Oh, why not surprise her with an anonymous donation?"  I am not sure why you felt compelled to bring it to the board. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;1. It is only anonymous if you don't tell anyone who you are and don't tell the person you gave it to them.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;2. Seems like an end of the year tax write off to me. Sad that a child is being used for personal gain. Especially one you don't even know. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I didn't tell Jambles I made the donation; the JDRF chose to do that despite me saying I wanted to make the donation anonymous.   I haven't had good luck so far with that charity; they disregarded my wishes and their website seems to malfunction.   Oh well.</p><p>It is true that I will save something like $4.50 on my taxes by having made that donation if and only if we can aviod the AMT this year.  However, since it cost me seven times that to make the donation, I am not exactly coming out ahead here.</p>

Now it's the website's fault?  You blame a lot on others and things.  Why?  

 

 

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Registered: 12-11-2013
Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:45pm

There you go with reason and common sense again, turk.  I guess donors should have all the power and control about their donations, heavens the donee find out...  Perhaps she should have listed her name as Mickey Mouse, Nobody would know then o_0

I think you mean Minnie Mouse Wink

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Registered: 12-11-2013
Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:47pm

I didn't make a donation to a total stranger's child, I made a donation to a research foundation.   And the fact that you don't understand altruism doesn't surprise me a bit, Turkey.  Not one single solitary bit.

BECAUSE of Jam's dd, correct? How many times have you donated to this particular charity? And YES, I understand altruism. WHEN it is done for the GOOD of OTHERS, NOT yourself.


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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:49pm
"In our area, it's called the Tacky Tour...the attitude behind which I suppose is why I have never been able to get past the idea that outdoor decorations might be considered distasteful. " ----------- The most famous one that I knew of in NY was in the old mafia enclave in Bayridge. It was definitely tacky and over the top, but also fun. It is not a big thing here. Easter is the big holiday, not Christmas.
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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:52pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I didn't make a donation to a total stranger's child, I made a donation to a research foundation.   And the fact that you don't understand altruism doesn't surprise me a bit, Turkey.  Not one single solitary bit.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">BECAUSE of Jam's dd, correct? How many times have you donated to this particular charity? And YES, I understand altruism. WHEN it is done for the GOOD of OTHERS, NOT yourself.</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><br /></span></p>

If you can show any way this particular donation is financially benefitting me, other than the amusement I am getting from it becoming some kind of cause celebre, please let me know.  It was a spur of the moment donation; I made donations that night on behalf of three children whom I know to be affected by the disease.  I must say the other parents were nicer about it.  Nobody else felt compelled to stir up drama and try to get attention on a bulletin board.

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:54pm

If you can show any way this particular donation is financially benefitting me, other than the amusement I am getting from it becoming some kind of cause celebre, please let me know.  It was a spur of the moment donation; I made donations that night on behalf of three children whom I know to be affected by the disease.  I must say the other parents were nicer about it.  Nobody else felt compelled to stir up drama and try to get attention on a bulletin board.

Did you personally KNOW these other three children?

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:55pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;turrrkeeyday&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;I looked you up to find out where you live, Jambles.  Know why I did that?  Because I was peeved because YOU had made a post mentioning where I live, despite my many pleas over the years to people not to post identifying information.  So I wanted to retaliate by posting where YOU live.  That was juvenile of me, I admit.  But I looked YOU up to find where YOU live.  Not your child.  The fact that the first link I got was to your donation page was not my fault.  Then I decided, "Oh, why not surprise her with an anonymous donation?"  I am not sure why you felt compelled to bring it to the board. &amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;1. It is only anonymous if you don't tell anyone who you are and don't tell the person you gave it to them.&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;2. Seems like an end of the year tax write off to me. Sad that a child is being used for personal gain. Especially one you don't even know. &amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I didn't tell Jambles I made the donation; the JDRF chose to do that despite me saying I wanted to make the donation anonymous.   I haven't had good luck so far with that charity; they disregarded my wishes and their website seems to malfunction.   Oh well.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;It is true that I will save something like $4.50 on my taxes by having made that donation if and only if we can aviod the AMT this year.  However, since it cost me seven times that to make the donation, I am not exactly coming out ahead here.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Now it's the website's fault?  You blame a lot on others and things.  Why?  </p>

Well, I guess I should have read the fine print that said that the donee would be notified, but I didn't see any.  And I certainly have no control over the time and date function on someone else's website!

And I certainly have no control over whether you would choose to make what I intended to a be a private matter public.

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Wed, 12-11-2013 - 1:55pm

turrrkeeyday wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I didn't make a donation to a total stranger's child, I made a donation to a research foundation.   And the fact that you don't understand altruism doesn't surprise me a bit, Turkey.  Not one single solitary bit.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">BECAUSE of Jam's dd, correct? How many times have you donated to this particular charity? And YES, I understand altruism. WHEN it is done for the GOOD of OTHERS, NOT yourself.</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><br /></span></p>

First of all, how was this to Bord's benefit????

And second of all, have you seen the Friends episode where Phoebe tries to find a *truly charitable act*? One in which the giver receives NOTHING (not even a good feeling) in return?  Hilarious. 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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