Unbrible children/potty training ?

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Unbrible children/potty training ?
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:11am

I potty trained Zak by bribing him. It isn't working with Alex. I have tried bribing him with treats or praise. He sat on the potty for gum then decided it wasn't worth it. He is being so stubborn. I had him wear pull-ups (which I hate) by promising him he could watch Thomas the Train. I put them on and he looked at me and pooped in them...on purpose. I ask him every day if he wants to sit on the potty and he says no. I had him go diaperless with a long T-Shirt and he kept tripping over stuff because he was playing with his penis so much. I am going crazy. He is 2.5 and I have to train him before the cruise in January plus I am simply tired of changing diapers.


Any suggestions? What works best with stubborn children? I can feel myself making this into a power play and I don't want to.


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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:25am
I'm not a big fan of external rewards for most fans. . .and especially not toilet training.

My gut tells me that he's not interested and since he's 2.5 and been through the wringer emotionally over the last few months, that doesn't surprise me in the least.

If it were ME. . .I'd leave it alone for 4-6 weeks. . .and see how interested he is after that time. If HE shows an interest between now and then, follow his lead. . .and praise him for that interest. . .but I wouldn't push it right now.

You've got a long time between now and the cruise in January. . .

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:49am
Okay, this might sound a little on the disgusting/cruel side, but I found neither of my kids had any incentive to want to use the potty until I forgot the pullups and rubber pants and just let them wet themselves. This, of course, was a last resort alternative after they'd both used the potty a few times over and had some idea of what was expected of them, just no motivation to do it all the time. I found this most convenient in the summertime, obviously, and honestly, as soon as they figured out that peeing their pants not only made them uncomfortable, but also, it interupted their play because they had to get a quick bath or shower (not one with bubbles and toys) and have to be re-dressed.

I really think that the quality of diapers and pull-ups, with all their drylock and special fibers really don't give kids the overall feeling of wetness like wet jeans. This is JMO, I know many people who have had a good experience with such things. My kids never even cried with simply a wet diaper as babies though... so it didn't bother them with the pull-ups either.

Oh, and I had a carpet cleaner, a swiffer, and always, a bag with spare clothes handy.

My dd was the most stubborn. I started potty-training her right after her second birthday - a month before she turned 3, within a week of throwing away the kid pot, pull-ups, etc., she was fully trained.

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:20pm

My DD is going BACKWARDS. She was almost fully potty trained 6 months ago

Mondo

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:28pm

Yup, buy yourself some pull ups and call it a day.

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:30pm

I never got into the kid potty thing.

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:41pm
Hey, it just might work! And if it doesn't, please don't ask me to come over wash the underwear... lol

Another tactic that worked with ds was, I had only bought him plain white underwear. (The kind in bulk, cheap, so I could throw out the messiest ones) and refused to buy him Buzz Lightyear until he went so many days accident-free. Even after I threw out the yuckiest pair, it will still cheaper than buying Pull-Ups for weeks (or months) on end!

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:42pm

Regression or disinterest in the process

Virgo
 
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:44pm

My middle one was scared of the 'regular' toilet for quite a while. . .course, she was scared of pooping too. . .would literally scream in fear

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:44pm

Maddie is two and is just about potty trained.

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:49pm
I couldn't imagine carrying around a kiddie potty either. I had the same reservations about ds and standing up - I didn't have dh show him that trick until he was tall enough to do it without a stool!

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