Underage Drinking

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Underage Drinking
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 8:02am

We have friends who find nothing wrong with allowing their 16 year olds to drink. They allow them to have beer pong parties with their friends (because they are doing it in their home) and allow them to try different types of wines (In their words "to make them a connoisseur of wine").

We find this unacceptable as if they are doing it at home, you know they are doing it elsewhere and these kids are able to drive now so I can not believe that none of them ever drive home drunk.

What does everyone think of this?

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:05pm

Why wait until 16? Some kids hit dad and mom's liquor cabinet earlier, like 14 or 15, Lol.... All they need is the house all to themselves and a friend or two or three to do it with, Blech.  My DD actually knew of these girls a couple Summers ago who were making skrewdrivers at her dad's houses, Yes 14 year olds, Dad was at work. It opened a lot of dialogue about the dangers in that and I'm glad we talk...... I have a real probelm with parents allowing underage drinking, other moms and I bring this up now and then, We actually spoke about this last Spring when a couple of them were planning graduation parties, ok, so the kids were 17 or 18, Lol but the thougts were whether or not to offer beer at parties since parents would be there, Given the honoree is an underage child my answer was no and I know of one that didn't offer alchohol b/c we were there.  Further, Some parents pretend to be their kids' friends and try to play both parent and child in these situations. I see these underage drinking pics of nieces on fb too that I cringe at and it doesn't faze mom or grandma one bit!  To each their own, Kids grow up too fast as it is, Why the need to push 21 onto 14, 15 or 16 year olds is beyond me...  I guess some think the world is going to come to a crashing end if they dont' get to. 

Those are my thoughts.

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:10pm
I started sipping wine as a youngster, Wine over white spaghetti was actually the first course of every Sunday dinner, It's an old Italian tradition.

 


 


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:15pm
Exactly my point. If you drink with your children (or do drugs) they will think it is ok not only to do it with you but with their friends in or out of their home. The 21 minimum age (not including the laws of some states who allow it with parental supervision, which I doubt just happens like that) is there for a reason. The maturity level of a 16 yr old is not the same as a 21 yr old.
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Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:16pm
I'm trying to visualize what this even looks like, Are 16 year olds allowed to attend parties where alchohol is served? Do they lie, Sneak out or do parents not even care what their kid is up to on a Saturday night.. Very strange....

 


 


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:17pm
Sipping wine and having a drink at a celebration is different than learning to like and appreciate wine and wanting their child to be an expert at it at 16 years old.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:17pm
Nobody has said it's a good idea to allow children who are not your own access to alcohol. I believe the first reply I made included the words "illegal" and "stupid."
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Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:18pm
I don't know, My 15 year old is more mature than some adults. But that's another story, Sorry, Lol.

 


 


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:18pm
Again this is a case of the parents wanting to be their friends and not taking their "parental duties" seriously.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:20pm
Understood but do you really think these kids will not do it behind their parents backs since they are encouraging them to like it?
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 2:20pm
If a person cannot distinguish between being allowed to have a glass of wine at a celebration or family dinner in the presence of parents (which is legal) and drinking and driving and partying with friends, that person is too immature to be allowed access to either alcohol or car keys. I don't care if that person is 16, 21, or 41, if they don't have that level of critical thinking skills, they don't need car keys or booze.

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