Underage Drinking

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Underage Drinking
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 8:02am

We have friends who find nothing wrong with allowing their 16 year olds to drink. They allow them to have beer pong parties with their friends (because they are doing it in their home) and allow them to try different types of wines (In their words "to make them a connoisseur of wine").

We find this unacceptable as if they are doing it at home, you know they are doing it elsewhere and these kids are able to drive now so I can not believe that none of them ever drive home drunk.

What does everyone think of this?

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:06pm
Well, your kids shouldn't have attended a function without "proper" supervision (TSA with full body scanners at all entrances?, I surmise.) But hey, what do I know, my dd 18, is skiing in Quebec this week, with fully legal alcohol access and unsupervised by parents. Some kids will always spike the punch, or bring the weed and some are probably from great families with superb supervision. My husband was a very bad teen, and he survived to become a very productive adult. I don't like his teen stories, but what can I do? I didn't know him then and he changed before I met him. We've done our best to put our kids into making the correct decision in these situations. Don't drink, but if you do, don't drive. And if you do make a mistake, don't continue to make them. I have little worries about my oldest and youngest, but the middle child is going to be a constant challenge. He is susceptible to peer pressure, it is just what it is. He may not be the child bringing in the booze, but he might imbibe as a follower. We are working on his self-esteem issues with therapy, dealing with his clinical depression with meds, but he is at risk because that's who he is. We will supervise very closely, but as he gets older we can not micromanage his choices. He knows the druggies at school (even the private school we switched him to), he's attracted to them, but so far he's kept his distance. I guess we're bad parents.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:25pm
Most everybody migrated to Facebook. I had a thread with 168 replies over the black nurse in Michigan who was prohibited from taking care of the white baby, and close to a hundred over the possibility of the pope facing criminal charges.
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:28pm

bordwithyou wrote:
<p>I don't think I feel comfortable discussing the details of the specific security arrangments at a school none of my kids even attend anymore online. </p>

It would be the worst sort of foolishness to discuss that kind of security on a message board like this.  I've heard of people on the internet who go around gathering information and then contacting minor children on Facebook, using assumed names and pretending a relationship with their parent exists that's nothing but a lie.  And they do it by gathering information about those minors from message boards like this.  It's really horrifying to know the lengths to which people with malicious intentions could go to when they think they have some kind of axe to grind against other posters on a message board.  You just can be too careful.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:30pm
No way! What kind of nut case would do that???
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:31pm
I guess everyone still checks over here though every once in awhile?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:32pm
Security at schools is a big deal now though, you do realize that? I guess even private school doesn't have very good security.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:33pm
You should re-read your posts :)
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:33pm

bordwithyou wrote:
Most everybody migrated to Facebook. I had a thread with 168 replies over the black nurse in Michigan who was prohibited from taking care of the white baby, and close to a hundred over the possibility of the pope facing criminal charges.

<p>I know many of us from another iVillage forum jumped ship after move from Prospero software to another message board location.  Within 6 months, we became one of the busiest forums on that site and we've never been happier.  It's good fun there, but it was a different debate topic :)

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Kitty

"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:34pm

bordwithyou wrote:
No way! What kind of nut case would do that???

I couldn't even begin to fathom the kind of degenerate personality which would behave in such a way.  I leave it to your imagination.

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Kitty

"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 7:35pm
No, but a few of us do, and we sometimes post an alert if there's anything interesting going on.

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