Underage Drinking

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Underage Drinking
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 8:02am

We have friends who find nothing wrong with allowing their 16 year olds to drink. They allow them to have beer pong parties with their friends (because they are doing it in their home) and allow them to try different types of wines (In their words "to make them a connoisseur of wine").

We find this unacceptable as if they are doing it at home, you know they are doing it elsewhere and these kids are able to drive now so I can not believe that none of them ever drive home drunk.

What does everyone think of this?

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:16pm

bordwithyou wrote:
I really hoped to heaven your long sabbatical had been beneficial. Oh well, not all prayers are answered.

Hey as Garth sings, some of God's greatest gifts are unanswerd prayers....

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:20pm

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
No it was about the alcohol at school and security there not knowing anything about it. You dont want to talk about security which is fine as I wouldnt either if there is such a lack of it.

LoL, your original op stated neither of those two points.  

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:22pm
It was originally about alcohol and then the story of the school dance and graduation party and how it is naive not to think that kids would be introduced to it because her children were. It was still about alcohol but if you start a story and say that kids "hid" alcohol in a "secret" room and were underage, yes, security is going to come up with that.
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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:27pm

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
3. We find this unacceptable as if they are doing it at home, you know they are doing it elsewhere and these kids are able to drive now so I can not believe that none of them ever drive home drunk. I don't know that but if that is what you believe of your friends and their kids, I guess you would know best. No, it is what I believe people do if they drink and get into a car. The amount of DWI's and deaths from accidents prove that.

Wow, your friends have been involved in DWI's and deaths from accidents?  I can see why you find this unacceptable.  I hope you can talk some sense into them and stop letting this happen in their homes.

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:28pm

My children are allowed to have small amounts of wine at home. It is also legal for them to do so.  For The Boy, this amounts to a couple of sips - at most about a half glass on a holiday or something.  He doesn't like it much though, so he doesn't ask often.  For the Girl, this amounts to about a shot glass of wine once in a while or a glass for a holiday meal.   She is already learning to distinguish between sweet and dry, and can recognize woody tones, etc.

However, we do not extend this practice to anyone else's children.  If another child's parent were in my home and chose to give their own child a small amount of alcohol, I would allow that.   That is legal as well.

 

I do *not* believe that if they do it at home they'll do it elsewhere.   That may certainly be true for some kids. Not for others.  In fact, for some kids, having the ability to experience it at home may prevent them from feeling the need to experience it elsewhere, illegally.

 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:28pm

My children are allowed to have small amounts of wine at home. It is also legal for them to do so.  For The Boy, this amounts to a couple of sips - at most about a half glass on a holiday or something.  He doesn't like it much though, so he doesn't ask often.  For the Girl, this amounts to about a shot glass of wine once in a while or a glass for a holiday meal.   She is already learning to distinguish between sweet and dry, and can recognize woody tones, etc.

However, we do not extend this practice to anyone else's children.  If another child's parent were in my home and chose to give their own child a small amount of alcohol, I would allow that.   That is legal as well.

 

I do *not* believe that if they do it at home they'll do it elsewhere.   That may certainly be true for some kids. Not for others.  In fact, for some kids, having the ability to experience it at home may prevent them from feeling the need to experience it elsewhere, illegally.

 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:30pm
Legally there isn't a bit of difference. and I know MANY 16yos that are way more responsible than a 19yo in college ... there's something about college that turns many of us into hellions ...

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:30pm

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
Some are saying it is legal in certain states if drinking is done at home under parental supervision.

Well, that is true but do you not know the laws in the US or in your state if you are debating this subject?  Drinking laws also vary by country.  The US has one of the higher drinking laws.

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:32pm
Or you could be teaching your child how to drink responsibly. Something that I think is VITAL that they learn before they're released out into the big bad world all alone at the age of 21.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:32pm

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
You were there? lol

Where, who and what's so funny?

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