Underage Drinking

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Underage Drinking
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 8:02am

We have friends who find nothing wrong with allowing their 16 year olds to drink. They allow them to have beer pong parties with their friends (because they are doing it in their home) and allow them to try different types of wines (In their words "to make them a connoisseur of wine").

We find this unacceptable as if they are doing it at home, you know they are doing it elsewhere and these kids are able to drive now so I can not believe that none of them ever drive home drunk.

What does everyone think of this?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 5:26pm

Do you do a check on all the alcohol in your house before you allow your kids out the door?  Do we even know the kids got the alcohol from someone's house?  It's not too hard for a senior in high school to know a 21 year old who might purchase a pint of rum for him or her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 5:27pm
What are you talking about, Jam?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 5:52pm
The dance was cancelled at that point, right? How is that fair to the other students who were there and not participating in the drinking? They lost out because there was not security to see what was going on and maybe even checking the bags of the kids walking in.
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Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 5:54pm

Kids that sneak alchohol are probably the same kids that help themselves to daddy's liquor cabinet in an unsupervised home, Thank God somebody is catching it if just the school instead of home (where the responsibility should be).

 Do you inventory your alchohol before your kids go out?

 


 


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 5:54pm
Not sure if you are speaking to me but I will answer. We usually don't have much alcohol in our house and yes, I would know how much was gone or if an entire bottle was gone. Yes, they could get someone older to it for them, of course. Again, bad parenting not really knowing who your kids friends are and what they do.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 5:56pm

I do not inventory our alcohol before my sixteen-year-old son goes out, no.  He has never given me any reason to suspect he is interested in sneaking alcohol out of the house, or in drinking, for that matter.  I'm not stupid about the fact that he has access to alcohol at home or at his friends' house, but so far it's not been any kind of problem.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 5:57pm
Exactly. These kids are not doing it for the first time. They have parents who have no problem with them underage drinking and/or they steal from their parents when they are not home. Since we don't have much alcohol in my home, I would know what was missing and my child has had many talks with us already about alcohol and drugs and smoking. My child is aware of who the "bad" kids are and what they do. They don't just become bad kids at 16, 17, 18. Bad behavior starts in middle school at 12, 13.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 5:58pm

No, the dance wasn't cancelled.  The "illegal party room" was shut down, and the kids responsible were ferreted out and punished.  And checking everyone's bags the night of the party wouldn't have helped.   The alcohol wasn't brought in the night of the party.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 5:59pm
So you will just wait until it IS a problem?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 6:00pm
So obviously there is not much security in this school and/or teachers that are aware of this "secret" room. How could that just pass them by?

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