Underage Drinking

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Underage Drinking
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 8:02am

We have friends who find nothing wrong with allowing their 16 year olds to drink. They allow them to have beer pong parties with their friends (because they are doing it in their home) and allow them to try different types of wines (In their words "to make them a connoisseur of wine").

We find this unacceptable as if they are doing it at home, you know they are doing it elsewhere and these kids are able to drive now so I can not believe that none of them ever drive home drunk.

What does everyone think of this?

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 3:15pm

There was no "school board," and I didn't need to do anything as it was handled properly by school authorities who were present.

Recent studies put the number of high school students nationwide who have tried alcohol -- more than a few sips -- at about 75%.  So yeah, it's pretty likely that your kid is going to be in the presence of kids drinking alcohol at some party, friend's house, school function, whatever, even if your child remains one of the 25% of kids who do not choose to drink.  That is not a moral statement or me condoning the state of affairs -- that's the reality our kids face.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 3:15pm

There was no "school board," and I didn't need to do anything as it was handled properly by school authorities who were present.

Recent studies put the number of high school students nationwide who have tried alcohol -- more than a few sips -- at about 75%.  So yeah, it's pretty likely that your kid is going to be in the presence of kids drinking alcohol at some party, friend's house, school function, whatever, even if your child remains one of the 25% of kids who do not choose to drink.  That is not a moral statement or me condoning the state of affairs -- that's the reality our kids face.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 3:17pm
I guess the number is so high as so many parents find no problem letting their child drink at home (more than a sip here and there) and being naive to not checking on kids at a party. Eyes rolling.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 3:22pm

You don't have to "not check" on kids at a party to have them bring out a bottle while you are in the other room.   All they have to do is sneak into a bathroom, or wait until you have left the room for a few minutes.   And it's a little ridiculous not to allow kids graduating from high school to go to the bathroom by themselves, don't you think?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 3:33pm
I am well aware that things can happen at anytime. The problem is that someone dropped the ball by being naive and thinking they are innocently dancing in the next room.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 3:37pm
No, someone is dropping the ball by making assumptions. Parents were in and out of that room all night, and the kids were in and out of the room where the parents were. There were fathers dancing with their daughters and mothers dancing with their sons. No one saw the bottle(s) until they were cleaning up after the party.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 3:44pm
You were there?
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 4:15pm

What do I think? Well, I think your friends are foolish for serving other people's children alcohol, which is against the law in every state. It is not, however, illegal for them to serve their own children alcohol in their own home. Most parents I know who do this, including ourselves, do not do so to give the kids a safe place to get smashed, but to teach them what moderate drinking is. For us, this translates to offering half a glass of wine every now and then with dinner to our 17 year old. Our 16 year old hates the taste of alcohol and never drinks. Good for him.

I would never offer alcohol to another child, even if the parents were there and said it was okay, because that would be illegal. I do know people who are like your friends, and are the "party house." I don't hang out with people like this because I generally don't like them.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 4:19pm
I was there for a little while, but not for the whole party.
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 4:22pm

Hi Ashmama, long time no see. Hope you are well.

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