Underage Drinking

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Underage Drinking
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 8:02am

We have friends who find nothing wrong with allowing their 16 year olds to drink. They allow them to have beer pong parties with their friends (because they are doing it in their home) and allow them to try different types of wines (In their words "to make them a connoisseur of wine").

We find this unacceptable as if they are doing it at home, you know they are doing it elsewhere and these kids are able to drive now so I can not believe that none of them ever drive home drunk.

What does everyone think of this?

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:32pm
Some things never change. @@
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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:33pm

Which is a totally different debate topic entirely ... and encompasses way more than underage drinking.

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:34pm

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
Understood but do you really think these kids will not do it behind their parents backs since they are encouraging them to like it?

some will. Some won't.   parents have to know their own children, and whether or not to trust them. 

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:35pm

Not all kids.  Not even most, ime. 

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:37pm

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
I guess the number is so high as so many parents find no problem letting their child drink at home (more than a sip here and there) and being naive to not checking on kids at a party. Eyes rolling.

 

You say that as if the two things are related.   Letting a child have a *legal* drink at home does not equal not checking on kids at a party.

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:38pm

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
I never said that. I said it could happen but it is more likely to happen when parents are not active and are more like friends than parents.

Is that based on your experience with your friends/personal experience or what exactly?  

And if you believe your statement, well I hope the best for you.  But I will tell you that if you don't think alcohol is going to show up at a party sometime during a high school kids life somewhere sometime, then that is naive.  That is coming from an involved parent who is not my child's friend. 

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:38pm

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hazeleyes2005 wrote:
So you weren't really watching the kids either. This was at the graduation party? What about the one at the school? What happened with that? Where were the teachers when any of this was happening?

 

I would think it not only impossible, but completely overbearing (bordering on bad parenting), for one to keep their eyes on their children 100% of the time at a party.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:38pm

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
<p>Nope, just talking about that private school. I am sure your security is superior but shhh...we can't talk about it as that is going too far. BAER.</p><p>Edited for grammar, god forbid lol</p>

That is a bit over the top, you talking about a private school of another poster. 

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:39pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
If a kid is hiding anything there's something wrong.

 

If good kids never hide anything then I guess there is no need for magic telescopes.

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 4:40pm

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
So basically not much supervision was given as you know, they are teenagers and we cant watch them all the time. If I was a parent of a student of a child that went to that school dance, you can be assured I would be going to a board meeting about this and the lack of security. I guess some parents, like yourself,find it ok and normal that these things happen and just let is slide. If your child was injured or killed by a drunk driver, I know you wouldnt be as lax anymore about underage drinking.

 

In actualy, I'm more concerned about ADULTS drinking and driving than I am kids. Seriously.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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